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A Workaround For Slow-Loading Blog Pages  

humorlife 56M  
4929 posts
11/23/2015 10:42 am
A Workaround For Slow-Loading Blog Pages


Hello, all:

A few bloggers have noted frustration with slow-loading blog pages. I've got no answers... but for folks with PCs and two-button mice, I can offer a workaround.

When trying to access the main blog page, or any of the sub-pages such as "Where I'm Quoted" or a specific blog:

1. Click on Community, so the drop down menu appears. Mouse over to Blogs, but do NOT click on it with the left mouse button.

2. Instead, click on it with the right mouse button. Doing so will bring up a menu of choices. One of the choices is to open the blogs in a new tab.

3. Instead, click on that with the left mouse button. Your destination will eventually open in a new tab.

It'll still take time to load, but the time seems to be reduced. Not sure why it works, but it does.

Spread the word!

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NaughtyInSO 113F
9755 posts
11/23/2015 10:51 am

Ha! I just tested this method - and it works.

Thank you, HL!

I'll attach this post to my signature.

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 10:56 am

    Quoting NaughtyInSO:
    Ha! I just tested this method - and it works.

    Thank you, HL!

    I'll attach this post to my signature.
TESTED?! You DOUBTED me???

A pleasure to be of pleasure. Blog free!

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
11/23/2015 10:59 am

I've been doing that but what I told Ghost still applies.
What I've found is if I scroll down a page the links to the main blog page, or My Blog page, or 'quoted me' won’t work. If I go to another page like the search page and click on the link it works. It seems like if I've scrolled down a page (any page) the link to My Blog page won't work. I have no explanation – it just does that.


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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 11:01 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    I've been doing that but what I told Ghost still applies.
    What I've found is if I scroll down a page the links to the main blog page, or My Blog page, or 'quoted me' won’t work. If I go to another page like the search page and click on the link it works. It seems like if I've scrolled down a page (any page) the link to My Blog page won't work. I have no explanation – it just does that.
I'm as mystified as you are. Wish I could provide some answers... only other note I might make is that during the weekday -- high-traffic times -- this method may not work.

Sorry about this, man: If I come across any other tricks, I'll let you know.


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NaughtyInSO 113F
9755 posts
11/23/2015 11:10 am

    Quoting humorlife:
    TESTED?! You DOUBTED me???

    A pleasure to be of pleasure. Blog free!
I don't doubt you, ever! But, this site - I always doubt.

And, I'm a nerd and a former geek: I test everything.

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
11/23/2015 11:12 am

    Quoting humorlife:
    I'm as mystified as you are. Wish I could provide some answers... only other note I might make is that during the weekday -- high-traffic times -- this method may not work.

    Sorry about this, man: If I come across any other tricks, I'll let you know.
Based on the different descriptions I have a feeling that the problem(s) people have reported like this show themselves differently on different systems. There may not be just 1 workaround. The solution of course probably is on the side of things we cannot fix ourselves.

No need to apologize you offered good input.


When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 11:13 am

    Quoting NaughtyInSO:
    I don't doubt you, ever! But, this site - I always doubt.

    And, I'm a nerd and a former geek: I test everything.
Aww... okay, fair enough.

As for being a "former" geek... no such thing. Once a geek, always a geek. And I speak from both nerd pride and geek pride.

May the wind beneath your wings always be strong enough to carry a laden African swallow!

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
11/23/2015 11:14 am

    Quoting NaughtyInSO:
    I don't doubt you, ever! But, this site - I always doubt.

    And, I'm a nerd and a former geek: I test everything.
Amen Naughty

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 11:23 am

    Quoting Eros_Space:
    Thanks for the practical info! Black Flirting blogs have been really slow to load lately!
May this ease the way, if only a little!

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NaughtyInSO 113F
9755 posts
11/23/2015 11:55 am

    Quoting humorlife:
    Aww... okay, fair enough.

    As for being a "former" geek... no such thing. Once a geek, always a geek. And I speak from both nerd pride and geek pride.

    May the wind beneath your wings always be strong enough to carry a laden African swallow!
Oh Boy..... Thank God for keyboard condoms!

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 11:59 am

    Quoting NaughtyInSO:
    Oh Boy..... Thank God for keyboard condoms!
*Sigh* We've been over this before... not that kind of swallow....

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 12:31 pm

    Quoting  :

Interesting... Blogs is under the Community head, so you'd seem to be adding a step. Does doing so make things run better?

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kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
11/23/2015 2:14 pm

I tried that for a couple of days last week and mercifully, I was able to convince myself it was working. It gave me some respite from my anger at the perennially dysfunctional site. And after a while, that too stopped working as well as it had appeared to.

I'm a lot less concerned that you have no answers than I am that the site has no answers, or clues, either. Most of you folks here are too young to remember the days of broadcast TV, when we had two or three channels if we were lucky, and managed to convince ourselves that standing in the front yard on one leg with our torsos parallel to the earth while wearing a tin foil fez with an antenna shoved up our asses would get us better reception

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 2:30 pm

    Quoting kzoopair:
    I tried that for a couple of days last week and mercifully, I was able to convince myself it was working. It gave me some respite from my anger at the perennially dysfunctional site. And after a while, that too stopped working as well as it had appeared to.

    I'm a lot less concerned that you have no answers than I am that the site has no answers, or clues, either. Most of you folks here are too young to remember the days of broadcast TV, when we had two or three channels if we were lucky, and managed to convince ourselves that standing in the front yard on one leg with our torsos parallel to the earth while wearing a tin foil fez with an antenna shoved up our asses would get us better reception
I'm not sorry as in apologetic: I am just a blogger here, with no access to, input to, or even communication with management. But I am sorry in terms of folks' unnecessary frustration.

If this trick works, even for a few of 'em, no harm, no foul. For those for whom it doesn't... I might also offer completely turning off one's computer, waiting, and then restarting (the standard IT response), trying to open a few new tabs at a time (not going to help, but at least one can browse the first one to resolve while waiting for the others) and... considering it an exercise in Zen tolerance.

Tinfoil and posing... ah, yes. The days of rabbit ear televisions. Kids today don't have it nearly as good, do they?

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NaughtyInSO 113F
9755 posts
11/23/2015 2:37 pm

    Quoting humorlife:
    *Sigh* We've been over this before... not that kind of swallow....
Oh? And I though... Never mind. ~ my turn to sigh~

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kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
11/23/2015 3:08 pm

    Quoting humorlife:
    I'm not sorry as in apologetic: I am just a blogger here, with no access to, input to, or even communication with management. But I am sorry in terms of folks' unnecessary frustration.

    If this trick works, even for a few of 'em, no harm, no foul. For those for whom it doesn't... I might also offer completely turning off one's computer, waiting, and then restarting (the standard IT response), trying to open a few new tabs at a time (not going to help, but at least one can browse the first one to resolve while waiting for the others) and... considering it an exercise in Zen tolerance.

    Tinfoil and posing... ah, yes. The days of rabbit ear televisions. Kids today don't have it nearly as good, do they?
Our frustration is anything but unnecessary. It's a perfectly legitimate response to the fraud being perpetrated on us. This is where a functioning customer service department might come in handy. People will put up with a lot of shit if you can convince them that you're taking their concerns seriously. You don't even have to be honest about it- just pretend.

I agree that your suggestions are worth a try. It certainly can't make the place work any worse. It appears to me that the site cannot last long. Lying about hacking and restriction of site privileges are one thing- poor choices, both. But a nonfunctioning website is another matter entirely. I makes me feel as though my free gold card isn't worth the price.

This is a lot like having a vintage performance car stored in the garage. It was once exhilarating to drive but now all you can do is sit in it and dream of the days when it actually started and ran. You still have the car, but now you can only sit in it and jack off. I've only stayed on this site because of the bloggers, and their blogs. The site is killing the blogs. And they don't even know they're doing it. This is no longer a dating site. Now it's a stress test.

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 5:01 pm

    Quoting  :

May it work well for you!

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/23/2015 11:09 pm

    Quoting  :

What you're looking for is the option of opening a new tab. Try holding your finger over the item you would otherwise right click on -- don't just tap it, hold it.

That may -- depending on the browser you're using -- give you the option to open in a new tab. Or it might not. If it doesn't, just hook up the stereo to the iPad and blast that porn, baby... the neighbors NEED to hear every moan and yowl.

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/24/2015 6:49 am

    Quoting joisygirl:
    Brilliant! Cheers!

    One of these days it may not even matter. I suppose I'll be here, as long as there is a here. Some of us are on fb together so we can keep in touch when and if this place does eventually go belly up.
I'm not really on FB anymore: Among other reasons, it really was a time suck, although I miss the Scrabble.

Hope/glad this is working for you! And yes, we'll keep on here together, despite management's best efforts...

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sweet_VM 65F
81699 posts
11/24/2015 3:53 pm

Great advise ty hugssssssssssss V

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missthee 58F  
4511 posts
11/24/2015 5:41 pm

My workaround is to get to my blog first, but only from the tab on My Profile. Once on my blog, I click on the blue Blogs at top left to see the main Blogs page.

And regardless where I access it from, my 'Where I'm Quoted' page initially comes up blank. It actually tells me I have not been quoted, ever. The first time it happened I actually thought A.F.F. had deleted all the blog comments I ever made. I refresh and the information loads fine second time around.


humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/24/2015 8:55 pm

    Quoting sweet_VM:
    Great advise ty hugssssssssssss V
Only if and when it works...

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
11/24/2015 8:56 pm

    Quoting missthee:
    My workaround is to get to my blog first, but only from the tab on My Profile. Once on my blog, I click on the blue Blogs at top left to see the main Blogs page.

    And regardless where I access it from, my 'Where I'm Quoted' page initially comes up blank. It actually tells me I have not been quoted, ever. The first time it happened I actually thought A.F.F. had deleted all the blog comments I ever made. I refresh and the information loads fine second time around.
Good points, one and all. *Sigh* They don't make it easy, do they?

Thanks for the tips!

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