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A First Time for Everything?  

sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 6:37 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    How do you handle 'rejection'?As a non-paying member my view may be different than others. I would prefer rejection to no response at all. No response leaves me wondering if the message got through (no matter the way it was sent) or not, then should I try again or even a third time.

    Earlier this year I messaged a woman - for the third time. When we met it turned out she had not seen the first 2.
I agree, a response of some sort (hopefully coherent and polite) is better than none. Although, I have seen some clarify in their profile that 'no response IS a response'. Sounds like the third time was the charm


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 6:39 pm

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    Sadly has happened more then once to me. Delete, ignore and block. Glad you can laugh about it.
Sorry to hear that you experienced something similar. There's simply no excuse for crude language and insults. Yes, have to sit back and laugh about it and move on. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 6:41 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    You accept all Pablo... even the stalkers? Happy Friday 🥃🥃🥃
I think he was saying he's never been rejected? Seriously? Everyone has been.


mc_justmc 63M

7/3/2020 6:43 pm

rejection? I avoid rejection by never asking, it's been a success!!!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 6:46 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    You know my friend I find it funny when someone here gets a little bit of recognition that someone sends a minion or two to chat you up... just saying
    Hope you blocked him back, such a 🐤💩 to block you when you politely declined, smfh!
Sadly, it seems anything is possible on here. Of course i blocked him and .reported him. Kind of suspicious that he has contacted me before under a different profile name. Soon as I clicked on his pictures, I recognized one of them.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 6:58 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes - the world is NOT centered around Black Flirting despite how it may be promoted.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 7:01 pm

    Quoting onelastchan00:
    I agree something is rotting in Denmark
    Sounds fishy to me....I honestly bet i know his user name here too lol jus sayin
Some people must have way too much time on their hands to worry about what anyone else is doing on here. Message me privately and I will give you his profile name. Funny thing is, he has contacted me before under a different profile name. I didn't recognize him until I clicked on his pictures and saw one familiar one.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 7:03 pm

    Quoting  :

Some people enjoy using their blog for 'conversation', although anyone can delete a comment they don't like. Nice to see you dropping by and commenting


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 7:04 pm

    Quoting ULIXBIG:
    I take rejection in my stride. I would usually thank them for having responded at all.
    If someone is very rude, I block them. I don't bother reacting in such a case.
Sounds like you have a process that is effective for you in dealing with contacts on here. Thanks for stopping by and sharing it.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 7:07 pm

    Quoting p1947q:
    I don't consider it a rejection - it is just some one's preference for whatever their reasons are. Like you I read profiles from pictures I like to those who reach out to me. I usually pass on the very short profiles and any that I don't seem to check many of their likes. Seems to me it would be rather egotistical and immature to expect everyone I contact to want to pursue even a distant chat.
Too bad some people don't share you logical approach for dealing with it. I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 7:10 pm

    Quoting powercaps716:
    since this is a sex site they look at you and some easy target, they didn't take the time to know you and understand you....... now he has just lost out on meeting someone nice and friendly ........his lost ,
Thank you for the compliment. However, I never would have agreed to meet him. We have absolutely nothing in common. And as I have mentioned in previous comments, he had contacted me before under a different profile name. I only realized who is was when I read the profile AND clicked on the pictures and recognized one of them. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 8:35 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    rejection? I avoid rejection by never asking, it's been a success!!!
What a great idea! You don’t ask, you just take? No doubt you are ‘successful’ in many ways 😊.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/3/2020 8:39 pm

    Quoting  :

I am certainly glad you are in the ‘99%’ too 😊. Nice to see dropping by.


ProfessorNaught 111M
1406 posts
7/3/2020 11:46 pm

    Quoting  :

@ 'shocked'


ProfessorNaught 111M
1406 posts
7/3/2020 11:50 pm

Unfortunately, you could have, and probably have, met this type of personality somewhere and at sometime in public.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 12:32 am

    Quoting ProfessorNaught:
    Unfortunately, you could have, and probably have, met this type of personality somewhere and at sometime in public.
You might think the odds would be in favour of that. However, to the best of my knowledge, No, I haven’t.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 12:39 am

There have been posts by others that outline similar experiences. It does happen more frequently than many would like to acknowledge. I have no idea how many email exchanges I have had in the duration of being a member. For me, this was a first.


easyrider4008 67M
2562 posts
7/4/2020 2:34 am

No time for people being offensive, a waste of energy replying to them, it just feeds their nasty ego.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 3:17 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    No time for people being offensive, a waste of energy replying to them, it just feeds their nasty ego.
Yes I agree that’s true. Normally I wouldn’t bother but I knew that guy had contacted me before. I wasn’t going to stoop to his level of vulgarity but set him straight that his language and attitude was unacceptable. But, he took that opportunity away.


mc_justmc 63M

7/4/2020 5:21 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    What a great idea! You don’t ask, you just take? No doubt you are ‘successful’ in many ways 😊.
No, I don't take. I don't ask and I don't get anything, but I avoid rejection by not participating.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 6:02 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    No, I don't take. I don't ask and I don't get anything, but I avoid rejection by not participating.
Well gee that doesn't sound like a whole lot of fun . It's hard to picture you being 'rejected' by anyone. I do hope you enjoy your July 4th weekend


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
7/4/2020 9:05 am

well I now have a winner and he has been reported. First contact ws from Portland Maine. The one today was from Roxbury MA. I copied and pasted it all to ABUSE team and once I know they have responded I am going to block. His name is igotitrealbad and he's full of so much BS I can teven imagine how he lives
had to test it first...I ran truluvlife.com for 8 years and I've seen it all and cleaned it up. In the end, I have over 250,000 members and twice as many blogs. I want to date safe, I've been drugged 4 or, 5 times.
6/28/2020 4:50 am

When I got your first message it was from Portland Maine now you are in Roxbury MA let's talk abut honesty or fakes
7/4/2020 10:54 am

yeah, I have money...I own a business....I go all over. so there nah!
7/4/2020 11:05 am
take that and smoke it dummy
7/4/2020 11:06 am
I can make 1000's a day sitting on my ass...what do you think of that? I have an ebay store and I own a multi security agency.
7/4/2020 11:08 am
bet that sticks in your throat doesn't it???
7/4/2020 11:09 am
ebay: "area51cent"
clovisai.com multi-security agency it's not set up because it's meant to be like that so, people can contact me in secret.
7/4/2020 11:15 am
I owned truluvlife.com corp 9 years....I had 3 accounts deactivated
here....want the usernames? I'm pretty smart....AI stuff.
7/4/2020 11:33 am
that's one they deleted the rest out of my mail.

7/4/2020 11:34 am
she said she was the only real person where she was...what a joke...watch out for yourself....if you need help with that...I'm more than happy to oblige.
7/4/2020 11:35 am
I don't know why I'm here really this place is disgusting...I'm just so lonely. Sorry.
7/4/2020 11:38 am
I don't mean to be a drag.
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sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 11:04 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    well I now have a winner and he has been reported. First contact ws from Portland Maine. The one today was from Roxbury MA. I copied and pasted it all to ABUSE team and once I know they have responded I am going to block. His name is igotitrealbad and he's full of so much BS I can teven imagine how he lives
    had to test it first...I ran truluvlife.com for 8 years and I've seen it all and cleaned it up. In the end, I have over 250,000 members and twice as many blogs. I want to date safe, I've been drugged 4 or, 5 times.
    6/28/2020 4:50 am

    When I got your first message it was from Portland Maine now you are in Roxbury MA let's talk abut honesty or fakes
    7/4/2020 10:54 am

    yeah, I have money...I own a business....I go all over. so there nah!
    7/4/2020 11:05 am
    take that and smoke it dummy
    7/4/2020 11:06 am
    I can make 1000's a day sitting on my ass...what do you think of that? I have an ebay store and I own a multi security agency.
    7/4/2020 11:08 am
    bet that sticks in your throat doesn't it???
    7/4/2020 11:09 am
    ebay: "area51cent"
    clovisai.com multi-security agency it's not set up because it's meant to be like that so, people can contact me in secret.
    7/4/2020 11:15 am
    I owned truluvlife.com corp 9 years....I had 3 accounts deactivated
    here....want the usernames? I'm pretty smart....AI stuff.
    7/4/2020 11:33 am
    that's one they deleted the rest out of my mail.

    7/4/2020 11:34 am
    she said she was the only real person where she was...what a joke...watch out for yourself....if you need help with that...I'm more than happy to oblige.
    7/4/2020 11:35 am
    I don't know why I'm here really this place is disgusting...I'm just so lonely. Sorry.
    7/4/2020 11:38 am
    I don't mean to be a drag.
    Reply within 48 hours and get 20 points
What can I say? It takes all kinds? Some people get real brave when they are hiding behind a computer screen, often in a darkened basement. People like that have to be straightened out right away. Silence is consent and they will never smarten up if they are brought to task for it. Shake it off and don't let it bother you.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 11:06 am

    Quoting  :

I had NO interest in him. There was absolutely No redeeming qualities that would make me want to 'chat' with him. I agree with your comments and trust me, I haven't given him a second thought. Thank you for dropping by and sharing your perspective.


drinksprite62 61M  
7927 posts
7/4/2020 1:26 pm

I handle rejection with dignity. I know not everyone is going to be into me. We all have different tastes.


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