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A First Time for Everything?
 

sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/4/2020 2:04 pm
    Quoting drinksprite62:
    I handle rejection with dignity. I know not everyone is going to be into me. We all have different tastes.
Everyone should handle it the way that you do. Sadly, they don’t. Have a great weekend 😊.


MrRareity 64M  
4589 posts
7/4/2020 7:04 pm

 We are alike in many ways. When I write to someone I'm interested in I am polite hopefully I'll get a response. Rather good or bad I look at it as at least they took the time to write me. If someone takes the time to write me and I'm not interested I send them a polite thank you but no thank you letter. I have never sent or will I a letter like the one you received. We both have to much class for that.
We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/5/2020 3:48 am
    Quoting MrRareity:
    We are alike in many ways. When I write to someone I'm interested in I am polite hopefully I'll get a response. Rather good or bad I look at it as at least they took the time to write me. If someone takes the time to write me and I'm not interested I send them a polite thank you but no thank you letter. I have never sent or will I a letter like the one you received. We both have to much class for that.
I couldn’t imagine you handling the situation the way he did. Being respectful and courteous costs nothing.


trixietrixster 56F  
3125 posts
7/5/2020 12:56 pm

 My response is: "Appreciate your interest, tho, I am going to decline. The best to you!" Then, I get "your loss", "you are fat and ugly", etc. Not sure why someone can't just accept a no interest without being ignorant. Some seem to think anonymity means amp up the douche-bagism. Sorry you had to deal with that crap ... *huggles*
In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/5/2020 1:58 pm
    Quoting trixietrixster:
    My response is: "Appreciate your interest, tho, I am going to decline. The best to you!" Then, I get "your loss", "you are fat and ugly", etc. Not sure why someone can't just accept a no interest without being ignorant. Some seem to think anonymity means amp up the douche-bagism. Sorry you had to deal with that crap ... *huggles*
I wasn't sure who he was but recognized one one of his pics when I clicked on them. I knew he had contacted me before under a different profile name. Interestingly, I since put a few of his 'other' pics through Google Images and sure enough, they all are for different people. Must think he is a real player but that's NOT what I would call him
Thank you for your support and the 'huggles'.


Sensual_GentleM 58M
397 posts
7/5/2020 5:34 pm

 How do I handle rejection? I simply move on ...


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/5/2020 7:15 pm

 Seems like a simple, logical way to handle it. Too bad there are many who don’t. Thank you for stopping by.


hsogybhsokhso 47M
Ask me for a photo

7/6/2020 9:34 am

 Asking you to chat and being told thank you, but no, is hardly a "rejection"
We men need to get over ourselves.
You are not needing to deal with such bs.

It is 'ADULT' Friend Finder. Wish more people would react that way.

Best of luck in your search. Hope they are happier ones ahead.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/6/2020 10:54 am
    Quoting  :
Actually, most of my experience on here has been quite the opposite. Men Do read my profile and will use something in it to start a conversation. What a waste of your time to mislead you with false information.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/6/2020 10:59 am
    Quoting hsogybhsokhso:
    Asking you to chat and being told thank you, but no, is hardly a "rejection"
    We men need to get over ourselves.
    You are not needing to deal with such bs.

    It is 'ADULT' Friend Finder. Wish more people would react that way.

    Best of luck in your search. Hope they are happier ones ahead.
I agree that's why I put "rejection". Thing is, when I looked at the pics I recognized one picture from another profile that had contacted me before. Was this a new profile because he had been booted off previously? Did someone 'steal' his pic? Did he think I wouldn't do my homework first? I NEVER respond to an email, IM or blog comment without first checking the person's profile. I will chalk it up to an anomaly since No One has treated me that way before. Thanks for stopping by. Perhaps you will do so again


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
7/6/2020 4:36 pm

 I have gotten a few and I just delete them and go on.
The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/6/2020 5:00 pm
    Quoting flannel_light:
    I have gotten a few and I just delete them and go on.
I would have too, except I recognized one of his pics. Seems he has a new profile and I am not sure it the other pics are even his. Regardless, his actions were uncalled for which I felt warranted being reported. If you don't, these guys think their behaviour is acceptable - another type of bullying.


Casablanca_0540 70M

7/8/2020 6:01 am

 "Rejection" is easy to deal with on a first attempt at making contact. I know what I have to offer and if, from the profile, I think we could be a good match, I just tell myself that it is her loss for not trying to meet somebody new. Rejection after a relationship has started is a lot harder to get over, especially if it comes out of nowhere. That can take some time to get over. Stalking and being a total a&&hole will not make things better. You have to walk away.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/8/2020 6:50 am
    Quoting Casablanca_0540:
    "Rejection" is easy to deal with on a first attempt at making contact. I know what I have to offer and if, from the profile, I think we could be a good match, I just tell myself that it is her loss for not trying to meet somebody new. Rejection after a relationship has started is a lot harder to get over, especially if it comes out of nowhere. That can take some time to get over. Stalking and being a total a&&hole will not make things better. You have to walk away.
I agree that 'rejection' and how one reacts to it could be different on a number of factors. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/10/2020 3:32 am
    Quoting  :
Thank you for dropping by and sharing your perspective. I agree that 'rejected' is a harsh word, hence I had put it in quotation marks. My issue with the whole situation was his reaction was uncalled for and crass. It was shocking as previously No One had responded to a basic and polite 'No Thank You' in that way.


dafocker44 64M
986 posts
7/15/2020 2:18 pm

 I think I forgot to ask, but

"I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response,"

Why? He showed no reason to deserve a response and certain showed how little he was by blocking YOU?!? WTF, Over?!?

Just curious why you would respond?
[I]Da Focker!!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
7/15/2020 5:33 pm
    Quoting dafocker44:
    I think I forgot to ask, but

    "I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response,"

    Why? He showed no reason to deserve a response and certain showed how little he was by blocking YOU?!? WTF, Over?!?

    Just curious why you would respond?
I was going to respond because I recognized one of his pictures from a previous profile who contacted me. I didn’t know he had blocked me until I pressed Enter. The fact no one had never treated me that way before also compelled me to want to respond.


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