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Can I Borrow Your 'Happy Place'?  

gottaring 52F
10306 posts
8/15/2012 7:25 pm
Can I Borrow Your 'Happy Place'?

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ABBC12356 41M
2268 posts
4/15/2016 3:34 am

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Diogenes5959 64M

8/17/2012 8:44 pm

gottaring replies on 8/16/2012 11:12 pm:
I'll have to wear something that shows off my ass just to distract from the train wreck that is above my shoulders. It's a good thing you (I mean, HE) loves me for more than my looks.

You do, right? (I mean, HE DOES, right?)

Quit playing coy, Boy. The jig is up, lol


Shuddup, you.


jay31692 48M

8/17/2012 4:40 pm

sadly my happy place was always up north on the lake sitting next to the fire with my wife... So yeah, considering she has recently left me, I can't even go to my happy place and it is bumming me the fuck out. Of course, if ya want you can use my happy place. Cuz I won't be there...


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 4:53 pm:
You need a good night out with the boys. A baseball game, maybe hit a bar or a strip club...find you mojo, Jay. You're a good guy- I know you'll be okay. Just give it some time .

rm_4jasmine2 53F
10698 posts
8/17/2012 11:40 am

My happy-place is on my motorbike.

You are welcome to come along on a ride:
1. Your head will be covered and no one will see that sting
2. I ain't bi - NOT at all!
3. we have the most stunning views and you will forget about your sorrows
4. I will be singing and bobbing my head to the music in my helmet, but you wont be able to hear me - unless you want to sing along.
5. Suuper vibrations under you - even your new vibe cannot compete with it!
6. you can eat chocolate and drink alcohol as much as you like, cause I am taking my special strap along to tie you up (NO you perverts! onto the bike - just to make sure she don't fall off!!)
7. and to throw something special in: once we are back, I will have your mother-in-law "take care of"!

Come on over hon - for a weekend you'll never forget!

Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning
Come visit my blog to know what I get up to from time to time: [blog 4jasmine2]


Nordischbear 64M
2681 posts
8/16/2012 11:14 pm

gottaring replies on 8/16/2012 10:03 am:
Maybe I should take up sailing...it seems like it would calm my savage beast. I don't dislike being on our boat, but it's not...spiritual. I need to have more of a connection with the water and maybe sailing is the answer.

Paraphrasing the old song--it's not perfect, but it's not bad. I feel really vibrant and alive when the running the crests, and placid and calm rocking in the troughs. And I almost forgot...big hugz for ya. Feel better soon, my beautiful friend.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:35 am:
Thanks, Bear! I'm in a better mood today- I worked out and it did wonders for me mentally, though physically I'm spent!

FreddiesFling 61M
3707 posts
8/16/2012 1:47 pm

Hope you find a happy place to hide for a bit to recover! &

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gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:37 am:
I think tomorrow will be a great time opportunity for me to rejuvenate. Hubby always agrees that I'm calmer and more rational once I've had some quality time to myself .

rm_Quixy101 71M
9036 posts
8/16/2012 10:35 am

Wish I lived closer, you could definately come over. My wife is a true non bi person and loves wine, plus you'd be safe from sexual predators even though I'd be infatuated with your very being, and being there but I would be adherent to your rule of first contact. It would be a great weekend...sigh...maybe another time...unless you actually do want to drive the 16 hours????


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:38 am:
16 hours might be pushing it for a drive by myself- I can usually handle three, four hours tops, before I start to go nuts, lol. But thanks for the offer .

thatdamncat 66F
3929 posts
8/16/2012 9:50 am

Pack a bag and book a flight to Columbia SC... Ill pick you up at the airport... Im not bi and I have wine.. and about 10 really good places we can chill.... poolside, Flying Saucer, Thirsty Fellow, Hunter Gatherer.. failing that, we can take off to the beach for the day

"You've seen my descent, Now watch my rising!" - Rumi

Some women are lost in the fire. Some women are forged from it - Michele K.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:39 am:
One day I'll take you up on that, Cat. Count on it!

hornyguyMN 43M
16352 posts
8/16/2012 9:22 am

Well my "real" happy place has been "gone" for about three months now. So at this point it's more of an abstract idea keeping me sane. At least I hope it is.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:39 am:
What's the old saying? Fake it till ya make it! That's what I do, anyway .

PurplePeach72 51F
9194 posts
8/16/2012 9:05 am

My "real" happy place is 7521 miles away in a dust bowl in Afghanistan but lucky for me he encourages substitute happy places...lol...My Cub is a good stand in and the motels he stays in while working are just fine for me. I'll glad share him but alas I am bi and think you're a hottie so although I would promise not to touch I can't control drooling and staring all the time.

All kidding aside, the happy place you need has to be yours and yours alone. It's inside you that feeling of peace and contentment just go find it this weekend no matter where it takes you.
Kisses,
LA


Kisses,
LA


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:40 am:
Thanks, LeeAnn. And believe me, if my pendulum ever swings in the other direction, you're at the top of my list . I still recall vajazzling you last summer...good times .

gunner4440 49M
2657 posts
8/16/2012 8:06 am

I am in total agreement with your wanting to left the fuck alone feeling. Glad to know someone else gets that too! If you get a reservation for the happy place let me know when you're checking out, I want your room.
On a side note, barring the end of the world on Dec. 21 I AM coming to the bash! Oh and it's just 9 months away, does a bash really take as long to develop as a baby?
Hang in there ring, guns are cold.

Take it easy, guns are cold.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:42 am:
If you're asking why I mentioned the Bash so far in advance, it's because I know people have to manage vacation days, figure out finances, etc., so it's better if they get a heads up sooner, rather than later.

I'm glad to hear you plan to make it, Gunner! I'm excited to meet you in person!

jim50plus 66M
2358 posts
8/16/2012 7:12 am

You just got a new vibrator! Geez, kids these days are just insatiable. LOL

My happy place has always been a state of mind in realizing a few things. First, I'm not dead...and I'm fairly heathy, as is my family...or what's left of it. Besides, life stopped being about me the moment I had my first child.

If that doesn't do it, I bake brownies.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:46 am:
I bake brownies, too, but I have a feeling mine are less...'ethereal' than yours, lol.

Diogenes5959 64M

8/16/2012 6:30 am

Assuming you and your friend do meet, I think the "no fucking" part will take care of itself with the pretty picture you describe.

Keep your ass covered though. That's what guys are really looking at when they're with you.


gottaring replies on 8/16/2012 9:12 pm:
I'll have to wear something that shows off my ass just to distract from the train wreck that is above my shoulders. It's a good thing you (I mean, HE) loves me for more than my looks.

You do, right? (I mean, HE DOES, right?)

Quit playing coy, Boy. The jig is up, lol.

cedarswamp4 48M

8/16/2012 6:05 am

One other idea: The Christine Center in Willard, WI, about 30 miles SW of Wausau. If bodywork, trigger point massage, meditation, walks in solitude etc. are your thing, check out their website.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:47 am:
Thanks for the suggestions! I'm definitely going to check them out online for future vacations.

cedarswamp4 48M

8/16/2012 5:51 am

Go to Bayfield, WI home of the Apostle Islands Ntl. Park. Get a tour by sailboat or on the cruise ship. Hike the gorgeous cliffs above the lake. Look for Meyers Beach Rd for the parking lot.
Other suggestions are Door County, Lake Geneva or Galena, IL


sexysixties2 106F
39750 posts
8/16/2012 3:40 am

My happy place is sitting on the rocks watching the sun go down over the lighthouse at home. I'll be there in October. The next best thing is a tiny hidden beach on the North of Dublin....watching the boats go out with a friend. Simple pleasures but they're what ease my heart.

"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


gottaring replies on 8/16/2012 9:01 am:
I could close my eyes and pick a random point on a map of Ireland and not for a moment be disappointed with the outcome. There is something in the air out there that calms me as soon as the plane hits the ground. It's the same way I feel when I go home to India.

w00f 49F
1087 posts
8/16/2012 2:14 am

You poor thing. This hasn't been your month has it? Bee stings suck.

My happy place is in my head. That's also where my nightmares come from.

Interesting word nightmare, by the way. In Medieval England, it would have been 'riding the night mare'. The phrase got corrupted over time.

See what I mean?

If this guy - or THAT GUY - has any sense, he'll know you're worth the wait. We do.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:49 am:
Thanks, Woof...I think we'll be okay. I was wondering if my search for a NEW GUY might put a damper on our friendship, but I think he's really okay with it. And being friends with THAT GUY is more important to me than trying to resuscitate anything physical. We just need time to hang. It'll be good .

rm__Safira 61F
11258 posts
8/16/2012 12:07 am

Where in Wisconsin in reasonable driving distance have you always wanted to visit but haven't gone yet? Go there -- now!

Also, have you checked out some of those home remedies for reducing your swelling and pain? Believe it or not, they truly work! *gentle hugs*

This is my blog - [blog _Safira]. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

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gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:51 am:
That's a good question! I can't say that I have any places I've been dying to visit alone- most of my targets are centered around the kids (Wisconsin Dells, Six Flags, House on the Rock, etc.). Although, I think House on the Rock might be a good getaway for me- it's amazing.

Thanks for the idea!

Nordischbear 64M
2681 posts
8/15/2012 11:56 pm

The time I spent on my Chief's old converted Shrimper...a floating pleasure palace. Oiled teakwood and polished brass; salt breezes and the wave action. Heaven on earth.


gottaring replies on 8/16/2012 9:03 am:
Maybe I should take up sailing...it seems like it would calm my savage beast. I don't dislike being on our boat, but it's not...spiritual. I need to have more of a connection with the water and maybe sailing is the answer.

BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
8/15/2012 11:50 pm

I've been a reader and writer since I was very young. My happy place usually consists of retreating into reading what I've written in the past: stories, blog posts, papers, etc.

If I'm able to, I head towards water, for me it's the ocean.

Hope you have a better week next week!


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:54 am:
As arrogant as it sounds, I enjoy reading my old posts. It shows me how I've grown as a writer and takes me back to some good memories that I chronicled here. Unfortunately, I deleted half my blog and most of my old photos when this who,e FAS drama hit. I saved them on a jump drive, but have no way to read them on the iPad while my pc gets fixed.

I think I'll devllve back into some of my favorite books. I haven't read them in so long- it'll be a nice change.

helen_damnation 61F  
2487 posts
8/15/2012 9:26 pm

Well, I would do a spa day, or weekend. That would be the height of luxury for this worker bee. Not have to do anything but be pampered? Awesome.
I guess I am going to have to get a submissive guy to give me spa treatments at home. Or pay for some. Either way works lol.
Or a weekend at the Driskell in downtown Austin. Ancient and cool and party right down town if you feel like it.

I am the only Me you get.


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:56 am:
Believe me, a spa day was my first thought. But with the stitches in my head, I can't get a proper massage and the bee sting prevents a facial, lol. I'm not a mani/pedi person- don't care much about my nails, etc., unless I have a special occasion.

Maybe I'll give my buddy a back massage this weekend- I actually enjoy that.

AlvinBooth 70M
5468 posts
8/15/2012 9:11 pm

Behind the wheel of my '62 Bonneville out on the highway with the gas pedal all the way to the floor. But ... I can't drive fast enough or far enough to escape reality.

AB


No Bozos


gottaring replies on 8/17/2012 10:57 am:
Welcome to my blog- thanks for commenting!

I love a good, long drive on the highway with my music on- it calms me. But wherever I go, the reality is that eventually I have to turn around and coe back home. So yeah, I totally get what you mean.

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