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What a gift!
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What a gift! Recently I was able to spend some time with an elderly lady. As I knelt down next to her chair, her face lit up and she asked "Are you gonna kiss me?" We laughed, and she told me her husband had 'been gone' for some time now. She then told me that she really missed sleeping next time him, that he was a great cuddler. She then got a wistful look on her face when she said "and I miss the other things as well. Really miss them." This incident really made me think. While she was in her early 80's, she still is a sexual being. It also got me thinking about what a gift our own sexuality is. I'm 51. And no, I am not embarrassed by it. The scars you can see all over my body I wear as 'badges of honor' - I earned every one of them. From the one on my foot to the ones on my neck, each one has a story to go with it. Some funny, most a learning experience. I am now much more comfortable with my body then I was 30 years ago. Recently, on a trip to Jamaica, we even spent days as a au natural beach - and loved it. I have learned over the years that my sexuality is fluid, meaning that I have learned more about myself and my wife - what we like/don't like, where our comfort level is, and how we are challenging it. What I have come to understand is the gift of sex - I don't mean a gift when I get it, but a gift of sexuality. I don't care if you are straight, gay, or somewhere in between, your sexuality is unique to you. When we were first married, our sex life was (we thought) hot. Being young, we could have multiple encounters in day, and with no responsibilities except for a dog, life was easy. Now we know that wasn't even close to hot! Then came , more responsibilities at work for both, and a lack of quality time. From there came a few of the "curve balls" life can toss, and that leads us to where we are now. If someone had told me 26 years ago we would be where we are today, I would have laughed. No way would I ever agreed to have anyone join us in the bedroom. Now, we look forward to that with great anticipation! I also thought about how our attitudes have changed, what we enjoy has changed, and how we see others. It used to be that when we were younger we looked more at the physical appearance. Now, that is only a part. We like the personality, and to us that is just as important. Intelligence, likability, all parts of the package. I thought back to a woman I dated before I met my wife. Drop dead gorgeous, and a freaking awesome body. Real bitch of a personality. She was never satisfied, and let you know it. Dated a few weeks, figured that out and when I dropped her - according to her never done before - she was stunned. When I wouldn't take her back, she was even more surprised. I had started to realize how important the package is versus the looks. Which leads us to where we are now. We like to think we are nice, decent people (OK, P more than me!). We are not supermodels (however, as P has gotten older she has gotten hotter!) We first look for a personality fit before we look for the physical attraction (Which, is still important, just not as it once was!) We are enjoying who we are, and looking forward to creating even more memories. If I learned one thing from my elderly friend, it is that I would much rather look back and say 'damn, that was fun' versus "I wish I had'. And how about you? Which would you rather say? |
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That's perfect ! Enjoy each other and life !!
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