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So you think she's a bitch....
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So you think she's a bitch.... Because she is cautious. She looks at you with trepidation, mistrust. She posts on her profile that she doesn't want to be bothered with email from men she doesn't know. She won't give you the time of day. She looks at you with loathing. You try to talk to her and she shuts you down. She puts you in the category of men who just want to fuck, then walk away without a word. So, she doesn't give you the chance to do that to her. So, she's a bitch, right? Did you ever stop and consider that...... Men have hurt her so badly. She has never met one that actually stepped up to the plate and behaved in a responsible manner. From the moment she was born, men have walked away. Her father left. Her husband left. Every man she has tried to trust has always let her down. In her vulnerable state, she has been violated. Men can take what they want without asking. She is left crying into the night, alone, wondering what she did wrong when in reality it was the man who violated her. He is at fault. She is the victim. He is the predator. She has been left alone, for many years, to support a . Every day she worries about how she will pay the bills, keep the house clean, get all the shopping done, run all of her errands, pay the rent, buy food, get repairs done to the house, car, etc., and support her . All by herself. Not one man has stepped up to the plate. Men are so fallen from the nature that they were originally created. From the moment Adam partook of that “forbidden apple,” he is so far fallen from his original state of protector, provider and lover. He thinks he is entitled. He thinks he can just take what he wants and walk away, leaving her to feel the pain all alone. Men are cruel. Their hearts are black. She has done her research. Studied the psychology of the male brain and the female brain. She knows the physiological differences that lead to the emotional differences. She understands the lie that society has perpetuated that men and women are equal and the same. She knows that women and men are equal, but definitely not the same. She knows that she is not perfect. She, too, is in a fallen state and must learn the techniques to change herself so that she might grow and return to that physical state that brings her closer to the original woman that she was intended to be. However, as she searches for the man who is trying to get back to his original state, also, she loses hope because the men around her don't seem to care about any of that. Her days are spent trying to learn and educate herself about the reality of life, not falling for the smokescreens and lies that surround her. She tries to shut herself off to avoid the pain that arises from any relationship with men. Because, in the end, all relationships involving men only lead to destruction and despair, destroyed hope, a shattered heart. Not one has ever stepped up to the plate. Her hope is gone that any ever will. So, before you call her a bitch because she ignores your sexual advances or flat out tells you “no,” maybe you should consider these things. Instead of trying to see how quickly you can get into her pants and have your sexual desires fulfilled without any regard for her physical or emotional well-being, you should try to just get to know her first. Talk about things other than sex. Have a stimulating conversation with her. If she has “friend zoned” you out of protection for her own heart, have the balls to take your time, get to know her, let her get to know you, be a gentleman, pursue her with kindness and affection instead of your cock, give her the hope that if you do have something in common you will actually stick around and commit to her. Be a man. Be a gentleman. Stop viewing her as a bitch and start looking at her in a different light. Be willing to look beneath the surface and see the beauty, the pain, the hope, the sadness, and the insecurities. Be willing to take the time, ask her how she's doing, see if she needs help with anything, talk to her about things she is interested in. Stop being a dick. And she will stop appearing to be a bitch to you. NOTE....There are a very rare minority of men whom I have met that are caring, gracious, and loving. This journal entry is not directed at you. You know who you are. The very few who have hugged and comforted me in times when I desperately needed it. Thank you for being the rare exception. |
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Lacianna, you have no real intention to learn or grow so please spare me. You admit your original post was hateful but now somehow ascribe all of that hatefulness to me. You have not even addressed one single solitary point I have made about relations between men and women. Your only replies were how I have lumped you and all women together and how hateful my words are. That is not a debate nor is it even an honest attempt at thinking. As far as I can tell you are just a woman who wants to put ideas out there about men and hope that you don't have to change whatsoever to get what YOU want in a man. I can see that realistically you do not care about men at all, you only care about yourself. If you cared about others and wanted to grow you would be able to confront the thoughts of someone who is different than yourself with a different worldview and make one tiny little attempt to see where I am coming from. You are just another woman claiming that "it's not me, it's them". All the while trying to put your little sex club together so you can entice your "select group of men" (better looking than you, more well to do than you) with the bait of multiple women walking around naked in a house. Which is further amusing because seemingly you cannot attract the man you want without a group to support you. As usual you have to tilt the playing field because you cannot confront a real man on your own. And it's not even a real man that you want because a real man will challenge you to be better and open your eyes to be better. You just prefer to be in the cycle that you are in. 80% of the women chasing after 20% of the men when there are probably many men that would date you whom you won't even give the time of day. Have a nice life.
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Yes the she is a collection of different women and all based on my life experiences. And yes they have changed me and my outlook and probably made me conscious of my level of how much I want to be used and how much time I want to put in to discover the inevitable.
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"Men can take what they want without asking." "Men are so fallen from the nature that they were originally created." "Men are cruel. Their hearts are black." "Because, in the end, all relationships involving men only lead to destruction and despair, destroyed hope, a shattered heart." So are these examples of lumping ALL men together or is it different when you say it? I mean, I know you put that little disclaimer at the end but as I stated in my original post guys go from "the good guy" to "the creep" all the time based on women's whims and emotions. We both know this. I'm sure you have done it. If you say you haven't you probably aren't being honest. In my experience women lack an ability to objectively look at the good of a man once they become angry and need a reason to end the relationship. "From the moment Adam partook of that “forbidden apple,” he is so far fallen from his original state of protector, provider and lover. He thinks he is entitled." So are you purposely leaving out the part where Eve partook of the apple first and then convinced Adam to take it too because it fits your narrative to blame the man only? I wonder how that conversation went? Do you think Adam initially said no because he was trying to obey God like Eve should have. At the risk of sounding like a misogynist I would speculate that this is an early example of female hypergamy. Eve was given an instruction by God to fulfill her commitment of living in the Garden of Eden. The serpent (exciting man) came along and started working on Eve. Instead of having enough willpower to obey the rules laid out by God, Eve thought she could get the BBD (bigger better deal) by having the apple. Once she realized she had done something wrong and her guilt and shame started to wash over her, she went and convinced Adam to do it so he could be the same as her to make her feel ok about what she had done. I would speculate that it was not an easy conversation as Adam, in his simple minded state before eating the apple, probably was ok with the fruits of the garden and following the ONE RULE that had been laid out to him. Since she had now received knowledge by eating the fruit she was able to use shaming and guilting tactics to convince him that it was ok. And in true male protector fashion he did it in a show of support for his companion. This scenario has been played out for thousands of years since. I'm sure you are thinking what a colossal jerk I am, but to think that this scenario could not and does not play out is being intellectually dishonest. Women love to use the "well if you loved me you'd do it" tactic on men all the time. And men readily succumb to it because they do love women and want to see women happy. Women do not realize how much power they have in relationships and with their words. They have the capability to be every bit the leader that men do and often they use abusive words to get their way. This plays out in divorce courts, tv sitcoms and many other avenues of culture. The phrases "if momma ain't happy, nobody's happy" and "happy wife, happy life" are testaments to that very fact. They are somewhat the equivalent of saying "What do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing, you already told her twice." The sickening thing for our society as a whole is that while the black eye joke is NO WHERE NEAR socially acceptable or even funny at it's root premise, the other two phrases are used constantly as a veiled threat with no thought to the underlying inference that what they really mean is that if a women is not happy she will make life miserable for those around her until they conform to what she wants. There is a cognitive disconnect between the two in our society that I believe is reaching a critical mass where we have been teaching young boys (who are now middle aged men) that it is never acceptable under any circumstances to hit or demean a girl. However, society through cultural phrases and bias in the family courts and domestic abuse protocols are simultaneously telling men that women can kick, scream, punch and yell to get what they want and men basically have no recourse. Women who have been hungry for power and equality are taking advantage of this because it makes them feel empowered and just like Eve are not considering the consequences that come along with it such as being the sole breadwinner and child-care giver, taking care of the whole house themselves, working longer hours, and the effect on their children being shuttled between friends, daycare and home. Before you respond and tell me how I think all women should be barefoot and pregnant and subservient to men, take some time to research domestic abuse of men and false domestic abuse allegations in family court. The problem is even more pronounced in the UK where there was a 15 or 20 year head start on the US on bias exhibited by the courts and government. With the internet these problems are more widely talked about and more men who have been through it have decided that marriage and relationships are no longer simply about love and until the bias is eradicated are simply not a sound financial decision. The sad thing is that most of us honestly do want pretty much exactly what you want but the circumstances of obtaining it are much different then it was for our fathers and grandfathers.
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I thank you all for reading my blog, considering my thoughts, and responding. This is a learning process for me. My thoughts and feelings come from a lifetime of hurt. I am trying to work through that, learn, and grow. I see a lot of animosity, anger, and misunderstanding between the two sexes. I know have a lot of growing, and changing, to do. I know I have to get over my anger towards men. Hopefully, my paragraph reflected that.... "She knows that she is not perfect. She, too, is in a fallen state and must learn the techniques to change herself so that she might grow and return to that physical state that brings her closer to the original woman that she was intended to be. However, as she searches for the man who is trying to get back to his original state, also, she loses hope because the men around her don't seem to care about any of that. " I need some time to ponder the comments and then will respond, especially to you, soundsculptor. The immediate question that comes to my mind is, "If you are trying to get to know a woman and want that opportunity to see if you connect on a level other than sexual, why is your profile a dick pic?" I am assuming it is that, or something else vulgar. I can't really tell for sure but I know it is something sexual because I have my settings so I don't have to see that. This is yet another one of the hypocrisies that women engage in. They constantly want what they themselves are unwilling to give. Women want all of this time and patience and understanding but can't waste 3 minutes of their day to respond to a chat message that says "Hello, how are you doing?" and maybe engage in some chit chat. And believe me I have tried multiple approaches for engaging women in conversation on this site and in my life. Basically you all find an excuse to not engage with anyone unless he seems like "the perfect man" in all ways. And why can I not have the same reason that many people (women) have for not putting a face pic up for the world to see on this site? Privacy. Work situations. Family. Custody court situations. Let's face it. This isn't match.com. There is a general thing that people on this site are looking to get to more quickly than normal and some people would rather not send face pics until they are talking. And frankly I find people that demand one right off the bat superficial anyway. If they need to see my face, chances are they don't REALLY care much about what I might have to say in my experience. As for a solution, I think once the majority of women stop living in fantasyland where they think they should get everything when and how they want it and start participating as equals in the world men will stop being as big of dicks.
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I thank you all for reading my blog, considering my thoughts, and responding. This is a learning process for me. My thoughts and feelings come from a lifetime of hurt. I am trying to work through that, learn, and grow. I see a lot of animosity, anger, and misunderstanding between the two sexes. I know have a lot of growing, and changing, to do. I know I have to get over my anger towards men. Hopefully, my paragraph reflected that.... "She knows that she is not perfect. She, too, is in a fallen state and must learn the techniques to change herself so that she might grow and return to that physical state that brings her closer to the original woman that she was intended to be. However, as she searches for the man who is trying to get back to his original state, also, she loses hope because the men around her don't seem to care about any of that. " I need some time to ponder the comments and then will respond, especially to you, soundsculptor. The immediate question that comes to my mind is, "If you are trying to get to know a woman and want that opportunity to see if you connect on a level other than sexual, why is your profile a dick pic?" I am assuming it is that, or something else vulgar. I can't really tell for sure but I know it is something sexual because I have my settings so I don't have to see that.
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Lacianna and soundsculptor: you're both right! You both described a common situation that a lot of us find us in. A solution would be nice, but is there one?? WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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She has led men on to get what she wants ever since her teen years when she learned she could use her womanhood to get men to engage in the chase. She enjoyed all of the attention she got from men ignoring the young boy who did want to get to know her heart and took the time to listen to what she said. She told him she was busy or tired as she went off chasing excitement with a man who only cared about what was between her legs. When she got hurt she whined to the young boy about how she wished she could find someone to listen to her and care about her for the whole woman that she is. The young boy patiently listened to her and brought her her favorite drinks and treats and thought she would eventually see he was the one that cared about the whole woman that she was. Within a couple weeks she announced to the young boy with a new exciting man she had just happened to meet. The young boy held his tongue and watched her go off into another relationship that was not with him. She called him from time to time when there were problems with the exciting man and told him she wasn't sure if it would last. The exciting man always won her back with a bit of charm and excitement and the young boy's phone calls went unanswered. She repeated the cycle and eventually settled down with another exciting man. He didn't know her favorite things or always listen to what she said but he sure was exciting. They had a couple kids and one day she decided the man just wasn't exciting anymore and his income hadn't reached a high enough level to make his dreams come true. One day she met another exciting man and gave him her phone number. They talked and she met him at a hotel one night and experienced excitement she had not had in such a long time. She decided it was time to take "her" kids and move on in life. She divorced the exciting man she had chosen over the young boy who had tried so hard to win her heart. She started berating him to make herself feel better and justify her decision to give up the commitment she had made. She lied to her mom and her friends about her husband and told them he never took care of the children. She forgot to mention the affair that she had had. Her lawyer told her to call the police and tell them that her husband had hit her and that would guarantee she would get custody. She thought that sounded like a good idea because after all, she wanted the children and why should she have to share them with their father? She proceeded to cut their father out of their lives all but a couple days a month and then told everyone she could how hard being a single mother is, having to do everything on her own. Deep down she knew she had made these choices but she had to play the role of the victim to her friends and family to get them to babysit, help her maintain her house and whatever else she needed. Whenever she needed some serious work done around the house she would look for a "nice guy" that she could use to get it done. The sex was never quite as exciting but she hated painting and she wasn't about to clean out the garage and make those repairs that needed to be done. The nice guy enjoyed her company and enjoyed doing things for her but once everything was fixed up enough he suddenly became boring and a bit of a creep. She explained to her friends and family that it just wasn't going to work out and that he was just like every other man. He only cared about one thing. Everyone remembered all the things he had fixed but they ignored it and just went along with what she said enabling her to repeat the cycle in the future when it is convenient. She never allowed them to meet the "exciting" guys that came in and out of her life. Her friends all thought how lonely she must be. When she met men if they weren't exciting enough in the first five minutes she discarded them. Some of them would get angry because they didn't understand why she didn't want to give them a chance to talk, especially since she proclaimed how she wanted a man to get to know her. Some of them had just been used and discarded when they thought they were in a relationship that was going somewhere. Invariably whenever one of their relationships ended they somehow went from being a "great guy" to a "creep" and a guy who only really cared about "one thing". Gone were the memories of all the flowers and special nights and surprises they had planned. In the end they decided that if all of their efforts meant nothing than putting in effort wasn't worth the "effort".
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I rarely read blogs. This probably need to be every persons.." Note i didnt say woman exclusively" This site is meant to find fun. Not for men to find a hike to use to get then off. It ruins fun for all of us. Mistrust, unguided delight which us as kinky free souls do enjoy. Its so rare to find someone unscarred. Its all starts with truth. I wish you pleasure in your search.
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Wish you well in your search, Happy Holidays
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