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Blogs > crimsonsexygal > Musing of an Island Girl

Words that are simply unattractive in a profile  

crimsonsexygal 53F  
30 posts
8/10/2015 6:30 am
Words that are simply unattractive in a profile

This really only applies to me. Whenever I see the words 'bored' or 'simple' or 'lonely' in a person's profile, it is a complete turnoff for me.

Boredom is purely a choice; why be bored when there is literally 100 millions things to do? It tells of someone who has very few interests beyond themselves. Read a book, go for a walk, talk to a friend on the phone or even write a blog! There is absolutely no excuse to be bored except maybe if you are serving a life sentence in solitary confinement.

By the same token, loneliness can also be a state of choice; if we take care of our mental health, loneliness can be eliminated. Alone doesn't mean lonely either; it means being centred and self-aware.

And simple doesn't work very well; an intellectual man is a very sexy man. Simple to me is someone that may not have much to say to me or tell me.

As I had earlier mentioned, this is only my opinion.

rdy2try4 58F  
3330 posts
8/10/2015 6:47 am

 I cannot agree more!!! I also agree, if you are bored then you are boring. I am not going to want to be around anyone that is bored as they will bring the boredom with them. I don't want bored sex it is... well... boring!! lol It would be someone not willing to take the time to do anything but shove it in and be over with and then they are going to be complaining about being bored again. Who wants that?

I also seriously hate the one line profiles of, "If there is anything you want to know just ask." Umm... if you cannot take the time to write something, and I mean something other than the repetitive 'has a 10 inch dick, can lick my eyebrows, I go all night and no one is ever disappointed' crap, then why would I take the time to find out who you are? I cannot see anyone going to a job interview that the sign just said "we have a job opening" and walking in to find out they are totally not interested in this job. It is a waste of everyone's time if you cannot write a profile. I know this is going to bring me some complainers, but honestly, most men are horny and ready to go and writing how great you think you are and what positions you want to have sex in are usually not enough for most women as again, most men have the same stuff all the time and it is...well.... BORING!! lol


Seraphim13 109M/53F
726 posts
8/10/2015 7:12 am

 Absolutely - entirely agree with you {=}


myelin36 53F
3612 posts
8/10/2015 7:30 am

 I agree that many people expect others to pull them out of their loneliness or boredom and they forget one important variable- they alone have control over their destiny!

Whether it be boredom or loneliness, society in general, has stated to lean toward seeking out a "quick fix" when it comes to alleviating such things and too often this creates co-dependency problems.
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bulehyatt 65M  
1717 posts
8/10/2015 8:24 pm

 Whenever I see the words 'bored' or 'simple' or 'lonely' in a person's profile, it is a complete turnoff for me.

One of the home-truths of life is that YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Puzzling that so many people don't learn this lesson early in life.

I mean sure, you can wait around hoping that someone or some event will make you happy. And that does occur from time-to-time: Christmas if your culture practicing gift-giving then . . . red-packet giving during the Lunar New Year . . . perhaps your birthday if your family makes a big deal of those.

But I suppose at least some people feel that "leading their own life" is an unwelcome burden or a chore, rather than a blessing and a wonderful opportunity.

Amen to your observations that boredom and loneliness are choices.

My own spin on "simple" in a profile is a bit different though. I have always assumed this meant people were describing their tastes . . . as in "I have simple tastes" rather than being high-maintenance.

Simple-minded on the other hand ? Definite deal-breaker. An active curiousity and an open-minded willingness to explore other opinions works much better.


brad684h 67M  
12 posts
10/10/2017 8:49 pm

 Hi, I LOVE your comments on boredom and agree 100%; I am NEVER bored. I do whatever pleases me at a given time, during my relaxation time


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