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Blogs > phoenix71rebirth > Flamed by the Phoenix

R.E.S.P.E.C.T ... mutually  

phoenix71rebirth 52F
181 posts
1/28/2016 9:49 am
R.E.S.P.E.C.T ... mutually

Another long tiring work week over.
And something has been gnawing at me and annoying me.
So here it comes like spewing vomit after a hard night of drinking (never had the personal experience cause I am a sensible drinker)

Respect is basic manners that as adults we should have mastered by now.

For example I respect the fact you are here to hook up for sex and I respect your choice to do so and at the very onset of any interaction clearly tell I will not waste your time coz I ain't about hookups cyber or phone sex. I wish you the best on this site.

In my professional and private life I respect peoples choices without being judgmental.

I respect elders and the same ... everyone of us is human.

I respect people's time and am on time for appointments.

I respect your space when you might have seemed enamoured by my existence at one point but grown quickly bored and friendzoned me wt "you deserve better" and "we'll always be friends"

If you're married and playing, I respect your marriage more than you and very clearly say I am a friend no benefits.

I respect that you have a life beyond my presence in it and never force you to do otherwise.

Mostly I respect you as a person to say you know what I enjoy our conversations even like your company but aside from pecks on the cheek and greeting hugs I am not sexually attracted to you. If you choose to never speak to me again ... am ok with that.

So I might be asking a bit much here that you respect me too as an individual with brain heart and soul.

Dont call me a pussy cunt ... I am a mother of 2 girls who I have taught no one man or woman has the right to call them that EVER! And what role model am I if I don't fucking kick your balls or teeth out for calling me those things.

If you fucked me but never want to see or hear ever again .... be an adult and tell me. Not lie about seeing me soon/again and then ghosting me totally or worse pulling the oldest trick getting someone else to call me from your number to berate or yell vulgarity at me ...

Again I am an adult. If you just wanna fuck me say so without doing some mini production ... I might start liking you enough to be hurt all over again ... something I don't need in my life. Coz if I am sexually attracted to you hell we be getting jiggy and if I am not I respect you ... I will say no sorry not happening. It works both ways you can tell me the same.

So bottom line respect me as I respect you ... real life or on a hookup sex site.

Ya know what I'm saying?

redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
1/28/2016 10:33 am

 Good post and I agree with what you’re trying to get across. There is one line you wrote which does come across as judgmental. I would rephrase it as:
If you're married and playing, I will respect your marriage and very clearly say I am a friend no benefits.
When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


phoenix71rebirth replies on 1/28/2016 11:59 am:
I take your suggestion as constructive feedback but leave for emphasis sake that there's a sanctity abt marriage betrayed when one plays on the side.

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