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Imbalance  

phoenix71rebirth 52F
181 posts
5/12/2016 8:39 am
Imbalance


On the scales of virginity.

I am Asian brown girl raised with it being drilled into me my virginity defined my value as a human being.

But the fact I was 5 and repeatedly sexually abused till 11 when I told my mom whose reaction then and now has been to blame me for my undesired deflowering by her own brother.

I sometimes regret going to her for help. Instead of protecting me she took to constantly labelling me spoilt product worthy only of discard. And growing up if ever I was seen speaking to a boy, she would say I was equal to a eager to soil myself further.

That period shaped my aversion to sex ... and now celibacy isn't something I torture myself with. I tortured myself to be sexually responsive in the misadventures of life. Now I am at peace with my choices.

Perhaps had I been a boy my life would have been different. Males losing their virginity by choice seems to be acceptable socially than a girl losing it by brute force upon her innocence.

Deflowering of females always seems to be a fantasy of many males. But they carry none of the guilt that society places upon the shoulders of females who did not chose so.

Even as we progress in everything else even in open random sexuality ... somehow a female's promiscuity is more harshly judged than a males.

I wonder how the scales tipped so unfavourably over the ages ... and don't tell me because Eve took the apple ... Adam should have had tad more sense, for that we bear the brunt.

JustADreamer1965 58M

5/12/2016 9:57 am

its unfair the way that a woman is judged in those circumstances


phoenix71rebirth replies on 5/12/2016 8:36 pm:
Judged and stigmatised

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