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Empathy Where Least Expected  

phoenix71rebirth 52F
181 posts
9/9/2016 4:33 am
Empathy Where Least Expected

So I have been on this site a decade now.
One of the things that's kept me here even though am celibate by choice (and I have a hard enough time convincing people it's a fact not mind game) is the variety of people I have interacted with.

Some have become real life friends who keep a close watch on the ups and downs of my journey as a single parent and my challenges in fighting stereotypes of what a brown woman in a big crazy world.

I have to love these men and women for the strength and courage they give me.

Since my move to Dubai 6years ago I have had moments when I honestly thought this is it ... I give up. But this 23rd Aug a week after turning 45, I got terminated from a job I was approached to take on. Against my own better judgement I took it ... between being jobless and having a paycheck to meet my commitments here I embarked on it thinking as usual I will make this work out for me as I have in the past.

Day 1 onwards I quickly realised them hiring me with urgency was more a planned career homicide unrolling. In the 54 days that I worked in this place there wasnt 1 single day how orchestrated everything towards my imminent failure was.

So when on day 54 I was asked to turn up for a performance review 6wks ahead of schedule I knew the worst was about to happen ... on my 3rd week I was told by a colleague you're up for termination - I was incredulous WTF? I havent been even given a job description or role given all the 'you cannot do this that every fucking thing my role should have let me do'

So I knew my days were numbered. I started again looking for opportunities out there but the job market is not great. So when I walked in and they unceremoniously handed me the letter and gave some vague reasons in rapid succession of a minute and timelines that didn't jive - I said no need to explain this decision was made even before I came on board so let's no waste time. Gathered my stuff walked out with as much dignity I could muster given my entire world was collapsing with each step.

I got home cried for a couple of days. Folks from this site asked how I was I told them jobless .. I was surprised how many came forward with suggestions and offered to circulate my cv or set up interviews ... it kinda almost makes you believe that humanity still exists in the big assed crazy world and on adult hook up sites too.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for showing empathy to a complete stranger bolstered my sinking spirit made me laugh and just been there to let me vent my frustration.

May all of you be blessed and find your happy. Back to the job sections and more applications to be sent ... my visa timelines tight, my futures in a bit of a limb but I am the phoenix and I will rise again resplendent with your well wishes.

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