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Musings on Friday
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Musings on Friday Boy who posted on FB minutes before jumping to his death due to cyberbullying. Boy who was forced to ingest poison by bullies and died. And here's my thoughts about bullies - they are 1. only good in numbers alone they are fragile confidence lacking twats 2. lacking in their family lives at some level or subject to bullying or abuse that this is their vent How do we stop this kind of cyberbullying and just bullying in general? 1. As parents you ARE yes no 2 ways about it responsible for the outcome of your . Don't make excuses for bad behaviour. Don't encourage it. Don't turn a blind eye saying will be - hell no unchecked become bullies 2. If you're a in an abusive environment find your safe adult and confide in them. Solve your problems first. Don't be the cause of someone else's problems that leads to their end of life 3. If you're a friend of someone who bullies or being bullied - speak up. Yes I KNOW snitches get stitches but stitches heal, death you're not coming back to life. Be vigilant. Be accessible. Be there for those who need you. I am greatly distressed by the things I read. And bullying is not just at schools, but by organizations, even governments ... power is a dangerous thing, unchecked it feeds off your ego and fuels for some irrational outcomes towards those it deems are weaker and submissive. Life is precious, we have but one to live, live it wisely. The above was a rant I posted elsewhere on social media. But why am I sharing it here? One of the most prevalent things I have found for myself being here is the amount of cyberbullying I experience for myself on this site. Sapio-demisexual is how I classify myself - that's due to my own preferences and choices from experiences - its not a bad thing to be discerning nor cautious nor aloof on who I might feel I want to interact with. In general I share a laugh with anyone. The really idiotic comments I get when on cam with only my very clothed face and toothy grin can really test my limits of patience and sanity but it's the nice messages that I brightened someone's day/night by my laughter, singing or smile is what keeps me sharing my cam with people. And then while I was reading something the other day, I realised something about the inherent nature of some people. They read into what you write and the lecture you that your attitude sucks - without knowing anything about you or your challenges - ok it's the internet you can say whatever I know myself better. Then the same people will when you're just having a good time still make it a point to find some fault - either mock you for how you see yourself or how you project yourself or how they perceive you to be. At the core level - they just cannot seem to be satisfied with how you're facing your life ups or downs they must somehow find some fault with it. Thankfully I guess am a little stronger because my life journey has been a lot of rollercoaster rides and bad falls and bruises but I get up and I move forward. I know some of my posts here were very resigned. It was a dark point in my life a point to be honest, for the first time ever I considered suicide - not just suicide but also that of killing my 2 amazing so that they'd not have to face the mocking ridicule and more bullying if I were to end my life. Through everything I have been thru to date - this is the first time I reached that darkest point. And there were people that egged me on to end my life - yes there were - because on such a site, you expect to find these sort of inherently unhappy people. A couple of weeks ago I actually sat my daughters down and I told them of this horrible thing I'd considered. I apologised to them for being selfish. That I'd discounted the worth of their lives because I'd messed up. Once again, I was reminded how truly blessed I am they are mine. We sat down. We cried, we hugged, we talked, I promised them I'd never think like that again and NO I would not ever consider suicide as an option. Why? Because I wanted them to be aware that at that low point, I was susceptible to being dangerous to them and that they should not be afraid to get help from outside if they felt threatened by my mental state. I also have started being conscious about making time to talk to God/Universe ... to ask for help to forgive those who have hurt me through my life, to bless them abundantly and to find it somewhere in my heart to be able to love them inspite of the past. And there's a weight lifting, a calmness a sense of balance even in the chaos that surrounds my present. And you know, even the people who say all those things to me here - I dunno your faces or your names ... just your strange handles, I ask that you be blessed and find love and forgiveness from others as well. From me a couple of things come to mind, 'forgive my trespasses as I forgive those who trespassed against me' and 'Father forgive them for they know not what they do' and 'may he without sin cast the first stone' ... I am but a fallen individual, but I know enough not to cause pain to others. You are welcome to continue what you do best. And I will continue to do what I know best - to be me ... imperfect to the core but me. Enjoy your weekend ya'll ... with love. |
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