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The Good, The Bad and the Ugly...
The Good, The Bad and the Ugly... I have been a member of Black Flirting for six years now. I have had some wonderful experiences and met some terrific people. I have had a handful of negative experiences too. In NYC I had an encounter with a man on Black Flirting who tried to impregnate me for a green card. I have met a couple of sex offenders here also. I received correspondence from a man who was homeless and interested in trading sexual favors for housing. I had a date show up in a manic or possibly intoxicated state once and immediately demand sex. Not everyone here on Black Flirting is who they present themselves to be. Most are but it is important to protect ourselves in our experiences here. I chat first to get to know the person better. I keep my correspondence here on Black Flirting so if anything happens the record of our correspondence traces back to only one user. I meet in public and usually plan to pay for my own drinks so nobody expects anything. I never promise intimacy in chat. I meet and go with the flow to see what happens. If and when we go back to his place my cell phone is always handy. In general I try to keep money out of meetings as much as possible. Obviously if a man insists on paying for drinks, a meal, a room or transportation I often take him up on it but only on a case by case basis. This is because I do not want a person to invest financially in our meeting to the point where they expect something in return that I may decide not to offer. In general what people should be seeking from you in meeting is companionship and intimacy only. I know many men here on Black Flirting who have met with women who have demanded high end dinners, transportation, shopping trips and entertainment only to receive nothing in return. There are some people on Black Flirting who live in group homes, halfway houses, have criminal records, mental illness are here illegally or are sex offenders. Happily that is not the vast majority but some people are predators and will find opportunity to exploit any experience. Please don’t allow yourself to become a victim. Protect yourself here and your interests. Meet each other in a public place first. Never allow anyone to take advantage of you. People should not be requesting money, shopping trips or any special favors unless they are offered. Never be made to feel guilty or obligated by any experience you have here. Be clear about what you have to offer and what you seek in exchange from the get go. As any relationship the experiences you have here on Black Flirting should be win win and all about mutual and reciprocal give and take. |
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6/25/2019 5:38 am |
Have to agree with everything you say here. I ALWAYS want to meet someplace public for the first time. No expectations and then take things from there. Sounds like you have met some scary people here!
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Some good and valid points. Funny when I try and keep contact here, its always a problem or I'm a fake. The best one's are when I'm supposed to randomly meet up with no more than a flirt or two between us. Epic! If I don't know you I'm not going to screw you, and no unprotected sex. Grow up people.
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i always meet in a public place first, for not only my safety, but for the other person's (or persons) safety. also like to see if we click.
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Great post, Very true.
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Very true. Doesn't matter if you have been conversing a day, week, month, year, or years. People are not always what/who they want you to believe they are. Always leave yourself a way out. Classy, Sassy, and a little Smart-Assy Sine Metu CN
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6/25/2019 8:26 am |
Great post
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6/26/2019 5:50 am |
Thanks for all the great feedback friends. Here’s to playing safe!!! ❤️💕✨💋💋💋
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