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Other comments 1 Good real time tips. I can personally attest to the 4 reasons above. Unrealistic expectations IS a major Divorce driver as well as a person unable to connect with a potential candidate. I hope everyone reads this blog  goodbuddy781
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Your expectations are too high While it's perfectly fine to know what you're looking for in a boyfriend and have standards for yourself, you do want to make sure you're not creating a list of attributes that no one can live up to. You might only be willing to date someone who has a job and little or no debt. That is acceptable. On the other hand, if you decide you will only date millionaires, you are narrowing your pool of eligible men greatly. If you want to only date men who are university graduates, that is also acceptable. You might take it too far when you say he must have graduated from an Ivy League University. Check that your expectations aren't so high that you can never find a suitable man to date. You make future plans on the second date You've met a great guy that you really like and he's asked you out for another date. Things are looking great until you mention your cousin's wedding that's taking place in six months. Now he won't even commit to a third date and you're wondering what happened. What happened was you were pushing him to make future plans with you. Even if that wasn't your intention, just the mention of an event that requires a date so far in advance is enough to scare off any man. Avoid bringing up things that are happening in the future to avoid scaring off a man you like. You are too aggressive Playing hard to get isn't a bad thing. You don't need to ignore a man completely and make him spend all his time chasing you, but men do enjoy a little chase. Instead of calling him and texting him numerous times a day, let him to the calling. Don't reply to his texts right away though. Wait a while and you'll have him intrigued about your life. If you are too aggressive, for example asking him out on all the dates or deciding where you'll go, he might be put off by this. You like the attention of all men If you are needy for men's attention, even when you have a boyfriend, this can cause major problems in a relationship. A man doesn't want his girlfriend trying to attract the attention of other men. A boyfriend doesn't want to see you flirt with other men or spend your time in communication with them and attempting to make them fall for you. If you exhibit any of the above behaviours, you might understand now why you're still single. Hopefully with the help of this article you can begin to change your behaviours so that instead of scaring men away, you attract the man of your dreams goodbuddy781
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11/5/2021 4:45 pm |
I only give advice when it is needed and mostly only when asked. Otherwise I have my lips zipped, unless it is a question about taking better photos for your profile. I love speaking up about that issue.
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Other comments 4 In an assertiveness seminar I attended they had an interesting idea about Communication in a relationship, specifically when it is a disagreement. Ladies, if you get him emotionally distraught [ pissed off, upset, angry ] you have taken away the majority of his ability to speak. When a guy says I don't want to talk about it right now, it usually means he is to angry to think or articulate and he needs the time to cool off in order to be able to talk about it. This is the exact opposite of what happens with women, they get angry / upset, their ability to communicate increases. The seminar leader suggested that this goes back to before recorded history, men were silently stalking food [ silence and focus required ], women were chattering while gathering food and watching the children [ activities made easier with the group and talk ] hmm, focus, interesting, ever noticed how hard it can be to distract a guy when he is completely focused on something? Think a highly developed capacity to focus in men from the hunter / gatherer era might have something to do with that?  The silence needed from the same time period made stressful / emotional situations reduce a males capacity to speak. Like I started with, an interesting idea for the dynamics in a disagreement [ argument / fight ] between a couple  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 3 It's be careful that you don't push him to the point that you can't resolve the problem, not a a guys needs are greater than a womans, more like, the communication needed to resolve issues can't happen if one person reaches a point where communication is not possible.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 Wait! I disagree. I need time to calm down before I can discuss things if I'm upset to that point. I'm pretty easy going- but sometimes a complete lack of awareness of what is going on in another person- or worse yet, complete disinterest- frustrates me to no end. I communicate worlds better by text, email or other written words- because I can find the exact word that doesn't overstate or neglect what I'm trying to get across. In real conversation however, I am usually torn between getting my point across in a fast manner- & finding the right words. Hence, sometimes I come across a lot stronger than I intended. Women too need Women time & alone time & have work & tasks & cannot answer texts or phone calls whenever. I think a lot of that article applies to both sexes- & my experience would add that it would be a benefit to many men to listen more  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 I agree that both sides need space and that discussion of all things is the most important part of a relationship but getting angry and upset is surely something which happens because of a lack of communication  goodbuddy781
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Insecurity is a big turnoff. You should also bear in mind that while he is head over heels in love with you, he would still find other women attractive. Men will ogle at passersby who show off their nice legs and fantasize about a hot celebrity he saw on TV. This is not a reason for concern. At the end of the day, he still chose you. goodbuddy781
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Respect the "Me Time" Boys will be boys, and they will occasionally want to hang out with their buddies. This is normal behavior and you should not be upset because you have not been invited to go with them to a sports bar or a hockey game. Understand that sometimes, distance makes the heart grow fonder. Men who are given personal space appreciate the romantic time together so much more. goodbuddy781
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Trust Issues Trust is a big concern for a lot of relationships. This is especially tricky if one of the parties has a history of cheating or flirting with other people. Guys in general detest it if women continuously spy on them or read their personal messages. Nothing is more irritating than a girlfriend who gets jealous without any valid reason. Women should also accept that it is possible for their boyfriends to have a platonic relationship with another female. It is okay to be protective and territorial as long as you act within reason. If you have been in a relationship with your guy for more than six months and you still have trust issues, then it may be best to reconsider the relationship goodbuddy781
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All very good points G000dbuddy
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Openness in Sexual Matters Communication about what make sexual relations better is very important to guys. Men will appreciate the opportunity to discuss what they want to do in bed and what experiments they want to try. Guys also want to know what works for you and what turns you on. They want to learn how to make the experience unforgettable. They also find it attractive if you mix things up and take initiative in bed. You can be more aggressive and reciprocate some of the things that he does to your body. Be mindful, however, that openly discussing preferences in bed does not mean that you can crush his ego at every turn. Men can be sensitive when it comes to sexual performance. It would be best if the discussion were both fun and constructive. goodbuddy781
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Clear Communication Men get irritated when women expect them to read their minds. It is much better to simply say exactly what you want and what you mean. If you want to go out on a dinner date instead of spending time in front of the television, then just say so and do away with the drama. Be upfront and avoid situations where your partner will have to read between the lines. What may seem obvious for women may not be that clear for men. Unanswered text messages and missed phone calls also cause arguments between couples. Some women have a tendency of getting upset when their partner fails to immediately reply to a text message. They throw a fit when their boyfriend does not pick up the phone after a few rings. This is a common pet peeve for men who are busy at work or other important activity. Women should understand that guys need the time to focus on other tasks and will respond to non-urgent messages as soon as they become available. goodbuddy781
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As the saying goes, "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus." the gap between the two sexes is not an easy task, but learning about each other is the first step towards a successful unity. Men in particular have simple expectations that every woman should know. Here are some of the most basic things that men want in a romantic relationship: goodbuddy781
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Other comments 8 Stop having sex with him. If you are still sleeping with your ex-boyfriend, stop immediately. It relieves the pain for a little while, but it's only going to break your heart over and over again. Intimacy with an ex creates a huge barrier to healing. Don't do that to yourself. Being dumped is a horrible experience, but there are smart ways to get through it with as much positivity as possible.  Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Other comments 8 Stop having sex with him. If you are still sleeping with your ex-boyfriend, stop immediately. It relieves the pain for a little while, but it's only going to break your heart over and over again. Intimacy with an ex creates a huge barrier to healing. Don't do that to yourself. Being dumped is a horrible experience, but there are smart ways to get through it with as much positivity as possible. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 7 Go out with someone new. When you feel ready, accept a date or ask someone out for coffee. Don't start looking for another commitment, but remember that you are attractive and desirable. Keep it light, and have fun flirting with new possibilities.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 6 Revisit an old hobby or start a new project. Is there something in your life you used to love to do? Maybe you enjoyed painting, building furniture or playing the piano. Or is there a project you've been putting off that you could work on? Being productive and finishing a project will take your mind off your loneliness and give you a sense of accomplishment that will make you feel good. This is the perfect time to remember how much you loved an old hobby. If you don't have anything to go back to, try something new. Take a yoga class, learn to sew or join a softball team. Your goal is to put your positive energy into something that takes your mind off the relationship goodbuddy781
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Other comments 5 Be physically active. Laying around on the couch eating ice cream may ease your pain for the moment, but it's going to hurt you in the long run. Instead, battle your sadness with something that's good for you. Go for a hike, jump on your bicycle or ask a friend for a game of tennis. If you're angry, go to the gym and pretend his face is on a punching bag. Do whatever you can to keep moving.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 4 Look great. You may feel like moping around the house in sweatpants, but it isn't going to get you anywhere. Give yourself a day or two to wallow in it, and then force yourself to stop. Put on clothes you know look great on you, fix your hair and wear makeup. You are going to feel much better if you are happy with the way you look. A bonus is that if he sees you out and about, he'll remember what he's missing.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 3 Recognize what was positive in the relationship. You're not leaving this relationship with nothing. You still have good memories of happy times you spent together. Remind yourself to be thankful for those times instead of angry and sad. You also might have learned some lessons about love and life, and that's valuable even if it's hard. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 Get off his social media. Even if you plan to stay friends, take yourself off his social media accounts for now. Seeing pictures of him is just going to hurt you, especially if he starts posting about another woman. When you've given your heart some time to heal, you can always add yourself back.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 Avoid arguing. You may or may not get back together with your ex in the future, but at first just listen to what he has to say. Arguing with him about the break-up will make you look desperate. It could also cause him to feel guilty and change his mind, but do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Instead of arguing with him, listen to what he's saying. Is he telling you that his personal problems are interfering with the relationship or that he just doesn't feel the connection anymore? Give yourself some time, at least a few days, to think about what he said. Then, if you still want to have a conversation, go ahead and express your feelings. Recognize that he might not see the situation the same way you see it. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 One of the aspects of life most affected by the pandemic is the safety of dating and how to protect yourself from these new risks. Some people decide to put dating on hold until the virus is under control. Others do not do well with the loneliness. Following the above tips and advice to reduce the risks of dating during the pandemic.  goodbuddy781
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Communicate Expected Social Distancing Practices When dating during the pandemic, whether virtual or face-to-face, it is essential to communicate all of your expected social distancing practices with any potential partner. If you wish for mutual COVID-19 testing before physical contact, express it from the beginning. If you expect masks worn at all times during any face-to-face dates, make sure this is known. Doing so helps ensures the elimination of anyone who does not agree to your terms. This way is quick and eliminates potential unnecessary risks early on goodbuddy781
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