Listen, it is ok to have your sexual self blend with your everyday self. There is nothing wrong with embracing what you like in the dark with who you are in the light.
It is ok to be aggressive and passive. However, you want to mix and match it be happy with who you are.
There is not a simple answer for sexuality. The important thing is to remember... There's only a few wrong answers... lol...
I believe one we let the two join hands life will be a lot easier