There's nothing to hide here
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Posted:Jun 13, 2020 1:20 pm
Last Updated:Jun 9, 2021 2:18 am
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I've been an Black Flirting member for over two years. Since joining I've had the pleasure of hooking with quite a lot of members in my area, and it's been a great ride. When I started I made the usual mistakes newbies do, but after about a month I was getting know people, talking the phone and getting into kinds of good old grown- trouble.
So looking back, I thought I'd share a few ideas that may help us get better at getting beyond the meet-n-greet stage and getting "know" each other better.
Today's tip is about lurking. There's nothing wrong with looking around - we do, but there are ways we do it that we dislike. My two least favorite are:
1) Hidden profiles. If there's one feature I don't like about Black Flirting more than the bad IM interface, it's how lurkers can hide themselves entirely, send flirts, and you try follow them back only see "profile not available". That hits my block list faster than you can blink.
2) Grey profiles. This could mean that you're brand new and haven't found any good pics or vids of yourself post, and you're still testing the waters. Or...you're the DL and are afraid that you'll somehow get identified and your life and career will be over in a heartbeat if you ever so much as flash your flesh.
How does the old saying go? Give nothing, get nothing. As a grey, I tried messaging a few people and got - you guessed it - crickets. Or a very curt message saying that they won't talk until they see the goods.
Why is that? Because... If I can't see you, chances are I can't trust you.
Here's how it works. You're here meet people and fuck. Who in their right mind is going want jump in the sack with someone who doesn't show a single pic? If I don't know what you look like, what are the chances I'm going meet you at a bar or over coffee, much less fuck you? Do you write so eloquently that you're gonna seduce me with your verbal charms? Not likely.
If it's your first-time nerves, that's understandable. But I bet I can conduct a straw poll with anyone here posting pics and they'll tell you they can count on one hand how many sexual partners they took in without a single photo posted.
If you're trying to be on the DL, that's your choice, I was there one point in my life as well. But what are the odds that your cock, ass, tits or pussy will get accurately picked out of a police line-? Take some time, look around and see how many of us are posting our body pics without our faces or eyes in the frame. It's anonymous here. Don't be shy.
Are you worried about the appearance of your goods? and I'll photograph them better 
The point is, we're not here for dating or falling in love, and this is one of the few sites that lays it all on the line. We're open about meeting and fucking. If that scares you, jump in the deep end with us or...
But don't with a compliment-laden message telling me I look great, would I like meet blah blah blah, and offer nothing for me look at. And don't try get speak privately with you and send a pic that way. It offends as a person who is out have fun and is open about it have you try manipulate into meeting you sight unseen, your terms. It's disrespectful.
Till next time...be open, be honest, be safe, and happy fucking!
Jon
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