Kink's dirty little secret
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Publicado:8 Agosto 2020 9:23 pm
Última Atualização:13 Setembro 2020 10:36 am 1103 Visitas
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I came out about being hsv+ this site a few years ago. "Came out" is a strong word, I mean only the people who bothered read my profile knew. I wonder from time time how many people didn't bother responding my messages because the first thing they read was "I'm hsv+" The fact of the matter is, statistically speaking, 1 out of 6 of you have this condition. Furthermore 4 out of 5 of those people with this condition don't know they have it. I'd venture guess that given the nature of this site that the numbers are more than likely much higher than the general public. In fact of the 5 or 6 women I've met from Fetlife 4 of them has responded with "Me too", despite not mentioning it in their profile when I disclosed. I understand not wanting post that you carry the sex version of chicken pox. However, the stigma that the general public has about this condition seems to be on steroids here. I'm part of the hsv groups here and they're graveyards. They're so quiet crickets would be lonely. I think we have an unspoken underlying issue. I'd like to think that everyone knows that hsv, aka herpes, is not tested for when you go get a standard panel test. They test for the big ones, the ones that will kill you, but not the one that you have for life. Quite frankly the last time I got tested, the nurse told me that she'd never disclose to anyone, which blew my mind. I feel ethically obligated to inform anyone I engage with, well before it comes to sexual contact. Has it made me untouchable? Sometimes it feels that way. Could I just carry on without telling anyone? Sure, and given the nature of the virus, there's probable deniability. Is it ethical? Fuck no. Do I want everyone to go through the alienation and self hatred that I have? Again, fuck no. It's been brutal, but I feel that if we all knew our condition and put it out there, there wouldn't be the stigma that exists. There would be more acceptance, less shame and more importantly, choice for what happen to our bodies.
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