Don't put all your eggs in one basket
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Posted:Mar 23, 2016 9:44 am
Last Updated:May 21, 2021 7:15 pm
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Don’t put all your eggs in one basket, date around, and look for someone else. Frankly, it annoys me when people keep telling me this, no offense. They act like it is so easy to go with different people at the same time. When I meet people who are stupid, have no manners, no common sense, extremely rude, not attractive (to me), don’t return my interest, etc, THERE IS NOT THAT MUCH TO CHOOSE FROM. I guess for normal and attractive people it is not that hard. I however, do not have the upper hand when it comes to dating because I have a hard time getting dates. I think I am a very bad case of beggars can’t be choosers.
Sometimes I will be texting with a few guys at the same time but I have never dated different people at the same time. A lot of guys just don’t ask me out. Also, I am a one time dater, so I have rarely seen the same guy more than once. Most of the time I’m just not attracted to them. Another thing is when I actually come across guys I would be interested in, it often occurs weeks or months apart.
Last year I only met five guys I really liked and I didn’t even meet them in person. So there was no dating involved there at all! Lol But they all happened at different times. In person, I met like eleven guys and I was only attracted to two of them. I’m not sure what I was thinking at the time of why I met most of those guys. But yeah, I guess I am slow with dating? To me the only way I would go on tons of dates is if I accepted invites from gross, unattractive, and stupid men. There is no point in meeting people who you know you aren’t going to like just to have dates though. Lol
You always hear people complain about how much dating sucks and how difficult it is, which I wholeheartedly agree with. I have never enjoyed it. Yet, there are people dating so many at once. I am wildly impressed by this because I can’t even imagine just dating one person who I actually like, so something like five people who I’m attracted to and find exciting would blow my mind.
For me, if I meet someone ideal who I really like right away, I would just like to date them and stop looking around for other people, and I would like them to feel the same way about me. Maybe I just think that because I am the ugly girl with not much quality to choose from so I will snatch the first good one that comes along? Lol
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He's so weird
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Posted:Mar 20, 2016 12:31 pm
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2021 10:30 am
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I really don’t get this guy. Why would he continue to feign interest in me just to avoid hurting my feelings? Maybe he did like me but changed his mind. Maybe he just wanted sex. Does he just continue to lead me on just for a future hookup or just to play with me?
We first started talking two weeks ago on Okcupid. He sent me a message. I responded to him. We had a nice chat and he gave me his number. Then we agreed to meet on Friday. For me, our time together was perfect. He was the kind of guy I always hoped I would meet. We had amazing conversation. We made out like crazy and even had sex, which I really regret now. At the time, I was hesitant to have sex too. But I just thought, “Whatever, go for it!!” I feel so stupid and hurt now.
I thought he had interest in me because of how genuine and sweet he was. When I left his place, he walked me to my car, kissed and hugged me goodnight. He said he was glad he met me and we would do something nice next time. As I drove off, he stood there looking at me. The next morning he texted me, saying he hoped I made it to work on time. All of this made me think this could be the start of something nice.
After Saturday he didn’t text me, so I texted him on Tuesday. We just had small talk and he didn’t bring up meeting or ask me when I was available, even though he mentioned twice that he wanted to see me again on our date. He didn’t text me after that again. So I texted him on Friday, and by this point I have thoroughly embarrassed myself with this guy. I kind of confronted him about his intentions…..lol bad idea. I also asked if he would like to get together again. He seemed very happy that I asked him and he jumped on the opportunity. Some of his texts were:
“You’re a very sweet and amazing person. Sorry, I haven’t been very attentive. But I really enjoyed your company. You’re a sweetheart.”
“I would love to see you again doll face. Duh! Lol”
“No way Jose! When are you free?”
“Yes, that sounds great!”
So it doesn’t sound like he is dating other women or he is making up excuses. He also responds quickly to my texts. Maybe he is lying and he doesn’t want to admit that he’s not into me and he doesn’t want to completely ignore me and hurt my feelings. Yesterday I texted him that I was available to meet on Wednesday or Thursday. He replied, “I’m free now.  ” and “Yes, that sounds fine.” I then asked him what he wanted to do and which day he wanted to meet. After that I received no responses from him. He just ignored me in the middle of the conversation. I think I just have to wait until Wednesday or Thursday to see if he texts me and has a plan. If he doesn't, then I will know to forget him. Lol I am really asking for trouble thinking about this guy. Eh, who am I kidding? He is not going to text me anymore. Another case of “he’s just not that into you.” That’s the story of my life.
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No Second Date
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Posted:Mar 18, 2016 8:55 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2021 1:00 am
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I met a guy last Friday and it was definitely the best date I ever had. I just thought, “Where have you been all my life? I know he liked me too because before we met, he basically said that he had a crush on me. He told me again on the date, which was a long one. We were together for like seven hours. He mentioned twice wanting to see me again but never really made plans. The conversation was amazing and we couldn’t take our hands off of each other. We even had passionate sex. At the end of the date he walked me to my car, kissed and hugged me goodnight. He said that he was glad he met me. The next morning he texted me, telling me good morning and that he hoped I made it to work on time.
After that, he didn’t text me for two days so I texted him on Tuesday. I figured this wasn’t a bad thing to do, because he was the one texting me first before. But I won’t initiate texts with him after this one. He didn’t mention anything about seeing me another time or ask me when I was free again. I guess if he wanted to do that, he would have texted me first. Now it’s Friday and he hasn’t texted me or asked me out again, so he is not really into me. I don’t think a guy would do all of that and act that way just to be polite or lead me on. I think he changed his mind or is dating other people. I guess our date was also not a big deal to him, even if he did enjoy it. He is 35, he has been on tons of dates and had girlfriends before.
I don’t know. I felt like I had already known him. It seemed like we were acting like boyfriend and girlfriend already. I don’t know if we were moving too fast or if it was love at first site. I have been single my whole life and never had a good experience like this with a guy. But if he doesn’t ask me out again, my (boring) life still goes on. I can’t do anything about that. But honestly, I’m sick of looking. I would just like to date this guy, even if that seems pathetic or crazy to feel this way so soon. It’s also hard for me to find a guy I like and who also feels the same way about me. I always felt that I was undateable. Wow, I am such a bad dater.
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Sex on the First Date
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Posted:Mar 14, 2016 9:52 am
Last Updated:May 31, 2021 8:41 pm
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Wow, I actually had a good date for once on Friday. I had never been on a date with a guy who was tall, handsome, sweet, polite, smart, funny, and honest....all of this in one guy. We had great chemistry too. I was very worried about meeting him and not being able to talk but it was easy to talk to him because we had things in common. He also paid for everything. He kept getting up to get me things. He offered to give me his jacket if I was cold. All of this with one guy was a first for me....the attraction, the chemistry, and that he was a decent guy. This guy is like what I had been waiting for my whole life. I think that is very sad because I am 27.
Well, first we had a coffee/dinner thing. I'm not sure what to call that. He kept on apologizing that he was late. It was cute. At least, he kept texting me that he was running kind of late. I was okay with it because I have met some incredible people before. By incredible, I mean they were very flaky and awful people. But this guy seemed like he had a crush on me. He said he had seen me on okcupid maybe a year or two ago and felt a connection with me and he was so glad that we met.
Then we went to a club. We just sat down drinking and talking. From what I gathered throughout the night, he said I was smart, unique, well spoken, adorable, gorgeous, and sexy. He also liked my bangs, my jewelry, and style. I did think he went overboard with the compliments. I thought, "What is this guy trying to pull here?'
After we were at the club for a while and he asks if he could kiss me. I said yes. We ended up kissing a lot. Later he asks me the worst question: “Wanna chill at my place?” Oh no, Mariam. Don’t say yes. If you do, you’re going to have sex with him. First, I give him a weird look and laugh, saying, "Are you feeling optimistic?" Then a few minutes later I say, “Okay, let’s go to your place.” So we go back to his place. He shows me around and then we sit on his couch watching TV. Wow, we made out like crazy. I had never had a makeout session that long. At first, I was pushing his hands away when he was trying to touch my boobs and go in between my legs. We went to his bedroom and continued kissing as he slowly took off my clothes. I finally gave in and we were having sex. He was whispering, “This isn't going to be the last time. It’s okay. We just like each other.”
When I left he walked me to my car. He hugged and kissed me goodbye and told me that he was glad he met me. Then he said he wanted to do something nicer next time. In the morning he texted me saying he hope I made it to work on time. There was something about all of that that makes me think, “Huh, he seems to have genuine interest despite us having sex the first time we met. He probably wants to date me.” I’m not saying this doesn’t ever happen. I know it is possible to have sex on the first date and end up having a relationship, but you shouldn’t put too much hope on it is the thing. I am prepared for whatever will come out of this. Eh, I might go on another date with him and then he disappears. lol
Maybe I’m just very stupid and he is a very good liar and convincing. I don’t know yet. But I did learn something here. It’s possible for me to have good dates with guys who I actually like and find ideal. I hope the next time I meet an awesome guy, I don’t have sex with him right away. That was a big mistake because I am wracked with guilt now. But who knows when I will have another good date again. Maybe that will be my only one. lol
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I keep seeing him
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Posted:Feb 29, 2016 9:35 pm
Last Updated:Jun 22, 2021 10:43 am
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So there's this really hot guy from Okcupid who I keep seeing in public. We were mutual likes on the site. But I don't take likes on there seriously because maybe he liked me on accident or he just swipes right on everyone. I saw him at Numbers all three times I've been there lately. I think the first time he recognized me as he was looking at me weird. He didn't approach me and I didn't say anything to him either. I found it might be inappropriate since he was dancing with two girls and making out with one of them. He was with the same girls the other times as well.
Today I saw him shopping at my work. I work at a mall. I noticed him right away and turned around to hide my face in case he might notice me. I don't think he did anyway because I wasn't wearing makeup.
This guy makes me think why is even on that site. He has a profile on Plenty of Fish as well. He's handsome and I'm not sure if that was his girlfriend at the club or if they are fwb or something. So he is definitely not single af. He must be like a lot of other people who use it out of boredom and window shopping.
Well, I don't know what the point of this blog is. I don't even know this guy's name. lol
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It's My Fault
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Posted:Feb 20, 2016 3:33 pm
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2021 11:53 pm
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Wow, I screwed up with two guys this week. No wonder I'm single. I'm an idiot. I don't think it's because I am meeting guys online.
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So Unlucky in Love
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Posted:Feb 11, 2016 10:41 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2021 6:30 pm
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For the past year my online dating experience has been dismal. All the guys I actually met in person, wasn't crazy about meeting. I was just giving them the benefit of a doubt. When I did respond to guys I liked, we somehow would not end up meeting. They would not ask me out or they would bail on me. I actually have not been on a date since September. It's kind of funny because I receive 20-30 messages a day....and out of all that no dates. Lol The thing is I don't respond to most of them because I know I would not be interested. When I respond to guys I like, they don't ask me out. Some don't respond after a few messages. Some I would end up texting them and having conversations with and we seemed to have chemistry. Blah blah blah. This and that happens!! That bottom line is when I responded to guys I liked, they would not ask me out, or if they did ask to meet it was in a rude way. They would ask me to meet right at the moment. It was last minute and it wasn’t during the daytime either. They wouldn't ask me a day in advance or anything and most of the time when guys did this, I knew they just wanted sex. So I would tell them no or ignore them. It makes me feel really bad about myself that minute invites are my only option.
I don’t feel like this is normal. Most people who said they tried online dating, told me they actually ended up dating people and having relationships. I can’t even get a date. My friend doesn’t know what my problem is, she thinks I have some kind of curse on me because she thinks online dating works. She met her girlfriend of one year from okcupid.
I would think that I am not good looking or interesting enough for people but then why do that many guys write to me to begin with and never develop real interest? Are most of them just not that attracted to me and think I am easy, then change their minds about me and think they can do better? That is a lot guys who do that then. I just meet so many flakes and weirdoes it’s not even funny.
I also question why most guys only want sex from me. I wonder if this is an online problem or if it somewhat personal? Are these guys really attracted to me for sex but would be embarrassed to date me because of the way I dress and that I am chubby?
All of this really bruises me. I just feel so undesirable. I’m trying to go out on the weekends now. I’m going to go do something this Friday. I did go to a club a few weeks ago, but that was a bit like online because I received unwanted attention, not too much though. Two guys asked me to dance, I felt awkward shaking my head, “No thank you.” Actually, one of them was pretty annoying. He continued to hit on me the whole night.
I just wish I could have met someone at school, or at work, or through friends (when I had a few friends before.) I feel like those are the best ways but it never happened for me. My only options are to meet strangers in random public places and online dating. Online dating does not work for me. I don’t think meeting people anywhere in public is very easy as well.
My question to you ladies is what do you think of online dating? Have you tried it for a while, maybe a year or more and what were your results? Did it have an effect on your self worth? Do you find my experiences atypical and what do you think my problem is?
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I knew I should not have responded.
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Posted:Feb 9, 2016 8:15 pm
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2016 2:04 pm
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Yesterday I talked to the most amazing guy. At first, I ignored his message simply because of the distance. I thought he was very handsome, had an articulate and amusing profile, and I liked the message he wrote to me, but decided it was best not to reply because he lives in Maryland. What are the chances we would ever meet? When I didn't reply to him, he sent me another message the next day that included a gif of him smiling with no shirt on. lol It may sound creepy but I was very turned on and finally responded. We exchanged messages throughout the day and I asked him if he would like to talk to me sometime, so he added me and we video chatted that night.
I was disappointed with the connection and the screen keep on freezing but I loved seeing him and listening to his British accent. Urg, this guy is perfect. How is he single? He's 6'2," has a perfect face and body. He speaks four languages. He lived in Germany. He has a degree in chemistry and he's in PA school. He is into BDSM and said he used to teach classes on it. I loved how he was talking to me. He's an atheist. I like his personality and the way he looks at things. I go crazy thinking of his voice. Wow, I must sound so shallow, describing how infatuated I am with him. I just finger myself thinking of him, wishing he would touch me.
Toward the end of our conversation the quality really started to drop and we were disconnected. Then I sent him a message on okcupid saying, good night and I enjoyed talking to him. I feel like he probably read it and ignored me. lol He probably won't talk to me again. But what does it matter? We would eventually stop talking anyway and never meet.
So that is why I did not want to respond to him. I knew I would like him and feel bad because he is so far away. Honestly, if I was rich, lived off an inheritance, and didn't work, I would just buy a ticket to go see him. But that is not the way things are. I am stuck with my stupid boring life here in Texas.
The worst thing is no guy like this would never be interested in me if he were local. I can't imagine ever dating a guy like this, not to say this is the standard I look for. That is asking for too much. lol Even if I'm never going to date a guy like this, I certainly couldn't imagine ever dating someone I actually like, period.
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This guy is dumb. Should I give him a chance?
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Posted:Feb 7, 2016 11:20 pm
Last Updated:May 23, 2021 8:28 pm
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So I had a phone conversation with guy from Okcupid. Before we had decided to talk on the phone he asked me a few times if I would be his girlfriend. I thought it was weird that he was asking since we never even met in person but I told him yes the second time, not knowing if it would really work out.
Our conversation went pretty well but when he asked me about my ethnic background, omg I thought this guy was joking? Here is how the conversation went:
Me: Well, my dad is Lebanese and my mom is Filipino.
Him: What's Lebanon?
Me: It's next to Israel and Syria.
Him: Isn't that where all the deserts are?
Me: The surrounding countries are like that but Lebanon has forests and mountains.
Him: Philippines.....I had a teacher from there. Where is that? South America?
Me: It's in Asia.
Him: Which part?
Me: East. It's an island like Japan, but it has so many islands.
I was really turned off after talking about this. The Philippines in South America? This guy is 25 years old!!! I mean I don't care that he thinks there are deserts in Lebanon but he never even heard of the country. I guess he never heard of the war with Israel in 2006? Probably never watches world news.
We continued to have a normal conversation for five more minutes and then I mentioned I was tired. I was really looking forward to going on dates with this guy but now I don't think I should meet him. But he said I am his girlfriend already? He isn't bad looking too. I wonder if I am being too harsh and should give him a chance?
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So This Guy Wants an Ugly Friend
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Posted:Feb 4, 2016 10:38 pm
Last Updated:May 21, 2021 4:57 pm
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I'm new on here and saw your pic
Hi I'm Alfred
Sent 4:54pm Block them Report
Hai nice to meet you.
Sent from the OkCupid app 6:20pm
Nice to meet YOU
You're the only normal looking one and I think you'd laugh at me saying that lol
Are you new too?
Sent 8:50pm
Normal one?
Sent from the OkCupid app 10:11pm
I've gotten some weird messages from girls who look very attractive .. You just seem like a real person probably just looking for new positive friends not a bf right?
Sent 10:17pm
I wasn't trying to hook up w you just wanted to make new friends
Tried to be friendly but never mind lol
Good luck on here take care ✌🏻️😎
Sent 10:34pm
Are you trying to say you messaged me because I am less attractive, therefore I am attainable?
Sent from the OkCupid app 10:36pm
Well, if you read my profile, it says I'm here for dating.
Sent from the OkCupid app 10:37pm
I mean this in the most humble way - I don't need to pick people who are less attainable than a girl like my ex (tall petite very nice and positive) so no I didn't write you bc you would be easier to talk to lol I'm offended man lol girls like tall smart CUTE lol guys
I wrote you bc you didn't have any pics w duck lips lol and a profile riddled w all your social media links lol
I say this being nice - you aren't my type at all but look like a real person genuine. I'm sorry I had to say it like this but honestly took offense at you pretending to not know very attractive girls like me. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt but know you've seen my pics and read my profile about being in med school lol you don't think girls would like me yes right lol
Were you trying to be mean? lol
Sent 10:52pm
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Good Christ, where do I begin? This isn't the first time a guy outright told me that I'm not attractive and he wanted to be friends online. WOW!! WHAT A NICE GUY HE IS TO EVER GIVE AN UGLY GIRL THE TIME OF DAY.....AND JUST TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM TOO!! I mean it's okay to make friends in person with people you aren't attracted to, but to send someone messages like this is fucking weird.
This guy is basically saying that I am so beneath his standards and so beneath him, and he thinks he is being nice? *my head explodes*
Honestly, I've never identified as attractive. I'm 27 and I've never had a boyfriend or guys lining up to date me. I'm also afraid of what some guys really think of me even if they keep telling me I'm pretty. I don't feel like what their said opinions count anyway since they were not my boyfriends. I know I'm not really a good catch. I didn't finish college. I'm not what people consider smart or well rounded. I'm not very interesting. I often feel embarrassed, thinking that some people will look at me and think I am nobody.
I just found out yesterday, a guy I liked is dating someone else. I really didn't need this. This ruined my night.
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Well, I knew that would happen
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Posted:Feb 3, 2016 1:40 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2016 7:23 pm
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So let me make another post about the same guy in "I want him to be my boyfriend" blog. When I started talking to him, I knew he wasn't that into me, as I mentioned he contacted me infrequently. I just thought, "I'm going to check his facebook one day, very soon, in a couple of months and see that he is dating someone." That's exactly what happened today. He posted a new relationship status and I couldn't help from crying when I saw it. This is so embarrassing for me that guys I talk to end up dating other women while I am never dating anyone. I am always single. I think I am probably the worst case of beggars can't be choosers. It's not that I don't settle for people I'm not into because I think I can do better. I can't get anyone I like so I prefer just to stay single. I really hope I have a heart attack and d i e in my 30s or something. I couldn't stand a long life of being single into my 80s.
I don't care how creepy and pathetic I sound to stalk someone's facebook and get upset that they have a girlfriend. I also felt pretty bad that this guys always seemed to have girlfriends. When I used to talk to him, he mentioned being in a relationship for five years. I can't even get anyone to go on a few dates with me. From what he described, he always seemed to be dating someone. Last year he dated someone for six months. I didn't have any boyfriends to talk about because I've never had any. I wonder if guys ever notice this. All I have to talk about are guys I went on dates with and that it didn't work out. I wonder if some people can ever guess that I have never dated anyone. I would never outright tell a guy this unless he asked me or we actually end up dating for a few months.
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I should stop worrying
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Posted:Jan 13, 2016 8:20 pm
Last Updated:Apr 3, 2016 7:32 pm
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I should stop thinking about things or getting nervous every time I start talking to a guy I like. They never want to date me anyway. I shouldn't sweat over it anymore. I can't imagine ever meeting a guy I like who actually wants to go out with me. I'm also afraid of what people think of me, especially family members. "Beggars can't be choosers. That's why she is single."
It's always annoyed me how normal people just met someone they like and start dating. It's just normal to them. They don't even have to give it much thought. For me, it is such a big deal and I can't do it. It would be the biggest surprise if I ever ended up dating anyone for three months.
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I want him to be my boyfriend :o
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Posted:Dec 29, 2015 12:39 am
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2016 8:37 pm
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Uhhgg, talking to another guy again but I don't think it will go anywhere. He is handsome, tall, very nice to talk to, we have chemistry, we like the same things, and is much better than the last two stupid guys I was mad about. Please don't tell me the chemistry is just what I think. I'm not that stupid. Anyway, I know he's not really into me because the first time he talked to me was the week of Thanksgiving. Then he didn't say anything to me until last week. We talked three times and he hasn't texted me since Thursday. Lastly, he said he wants to take me on a date or something soon. Yeah right, he would just ask me when I'm available to see him if he really wanted to do that. Also, he only told me that because I asked him, "So where do you see all of this going?"
I must be stupid to giggle like a school girl thinking of a guy who just talks to me when he is bored. What I get most upset about is that guys I like will talk to me first but they just want sex or never have any real interest. When I'm not impressed by or I think a guy is really unattractive, they are so willing to ask me out and willing to see me for a second date and kiss my ass...and I don't even have to try with them. I don't get it. Why is this so consistent in happening?
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