And then you shag ...
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Posted:Jul 5, 2015 11:41 pm
Last Updated:Oct 7, 2015 6:27 pm
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Right so we have pretty much established that I am a demisexual who thrives on brains.
Getting into my pants is only possible if at some level I have connected with you and its because I actually desire you enough to want it that much ... there are times I might desire you but I never let you get further than some heavy snogging.
Its all mental connect - it has to be there first the magic click in my brain and then you're in.
So now the tragedy with that is as I have found, I connect but you don't - you're the NSA FWB no commitments no dramas no nothing - and that sucks big time for a demisexual who sieves through so many to find the one turns that magic switch on.
And so it then becomes a shag and nothing more. I want to relive the magic, you want just the shag when its available.
I suppose the middle ground is to find that balance that keeps me happy satisfied and keeps you happy satisfied - but that cannot exist in a demi's mind and psyche.
You see the reason you got that far was we saw and felt magic and once it strikes us that we're just one of the pickings to warm your loins, the magic fades or even if we cannot disconnect mentally we distance ourselves ... because for a demi its the exclusivity of that connect ... we are NEVER meant to be a part of a harem.
And so we shagged ... and that's all it was to you.
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When In Rome ... or in the Middle East
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Posted:Jun 16, 2015 10:41 pm
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2015 9:18 am
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Many expatriates coming to the MiddleEast seem to suffer brain farts.
You are in another person's country you will adapt AND respect their social and cultural norms - which would avoid a lot of unwanted hypocrisy from you - coz you adhere in general to your social norms don't you and expect visitors to also do the same.
Well if you didn't know the Ramadan Fast is commencing 18th June and for 30 days.
Here are some dos and don'ts if you are in any of the MiddleEast countries or other Muslim nations.
• "Ramadan Mubarak" and "Ramadan Kareem" are congratulatory greetings used when the first day of Ramadan is announced (kareem means generous and mubarak means blessings)
Firing the Ramadan Cannon
• Iftar is in the evening time when, just after the sun sets, a cannon is fired to announce the breaking of the fast for the day.
Vocabulary Related to Ramadan
• Adhan: Call to prayer
• Allah: God
• Imsak: Beginning the daily fast, means the act rather than the time
• Fajr (dawn): The first prayer of the day, at dawn
• Dhuhr: Midday prayer
• Asr: Mid-afternoon prayer
• Maghreb: Sunset prayer
• Isha: Evening prayer, the fifth and last prayer of the day
• Salat: The act of praying
What Does the Call for Prayer Mean?
• Allahu ‘akbar, Allahu ‘akbar God is greater, God is greater.
• ‘ash-hadu ‘anna laa ‘ilaaha ‘il-la Allah I testify that there is no God but Allah.
• wa ‘ash-hadu ‘anna Muhammadan rasulu Allah I testify that Muhammed is God’s messenger/prophet
• Hayya alaa aS-Salaah, Hayya alaa aS-Salaah. Rush to the prayer, rush to prayer.
• Hayya alaa al-falaH, Hayya alaa al-FalaH. Rush to prosperity, rush to prosperity.
• Allahu ‘akbar, Allahu ‘akbar God is greater, God is greater.
• Laa ‘ilaaha ‘il-la Allah. There is no God but Allah.
Suhoor (Pre-Dawn Meal)
• It is an Islamic term referring to the meal consumed early in the morning by Muslims before fasting
• The meal is eaten before fajr or dawn. Being the only meal eaten by Muslims from dawn to sunset during the month of Ramadan
• Suhoor typically tends to be heavy and is highly regarded by Islamic traditions, to benefit from the blessings and avoid crankiness or weakness caused by the fast
Why Do Muslims Fast?
• For the sake of God
• Ramadan is not about going hungry and thirsty for a few hours each day.
The month serves as an exercise in self-control, patience, endurance and staying away of bad habits.
Ramadan Etiquette
Respect those on fast around you: no eating, no drinking in front of them
People should avoid getting into debates and arguments or pick fights during Ramadan
One of the Ramadan practices is planning ahead for your daily responsibilities/religious practices
If you are invited to share an “Iftar meal” with your Muslims friends, Go ahead and NEVER hesitate; this is one of the most appreciated acts in the Holy month
During Ramadan, if you are looking to invite your Muslims friends to your home for an "Iftar meal", make sure to have dates for them to open their fast and have a healthy meal prepared
Forgive everyone who has hurt you: Muslims don’t start Ramadan without forgiving everyone who has hurt them. Ramadan is a month of Forgiving. Forgiveness is one of the biggest acts that takes places during Ramadan. It is an act that purifies the soul
Muslims are required to read and recite the Holy Muslim book called “Qur’an” during Ramadan. While reading the “Qur’an”, a Muslim can’t reply to other’s questions or be engaged in a conversation. Wait until he finishes his reading and then ask him whatever you need from him
Muslims try their best to preform all their prayers on time
Muslims can stay up all night for prayers and for reciting Qur’an during the Holy Month of Ramadan
As soon as hearing “Adhan” (Call to prayer) Muslim should immediately break their fast
RAMADAN TIPS
• One of the most important healthy tips is to NOT over eat and stay away from the fatty foods.(This is why some people end with extra weight at the end of the month.)
• To keep their bodies hydrated during the Holy month, Muslims should drink plenty of water and fluids pre-and post-fast
Ramadan Beliefs[
• Muslims believe that the Golden Chance of having their "Du'aa" accepted coincides with the time of breaking their fast (Sunset time, Iftar time). Du’aa is when you wish or recommend something from God; you seek his help in making your wishes true.
• The last 10 days of Ramadan are of HIGH value for Muslims, they are recommended to increase their prayers (“du’aa”)
• All Muslims must fast unless they are the elderly, pregnant women, young and people who are unwell
• Muslims should keep practicing good habits and values after Ramadan: Praying and staying away from bad habits is what should happen every day and not only during Ramadan
Lailat l-Qadr[
• During the last ten days of Ramadan, Muslims seek and observe the Night of Power
• Tradition holds that the Night of Power is the night that the first revelation of the Qur'an was sent down to the Prophet Muhammad
• The Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: “Whoever prays on Laylat l-Qadr out of faith and sincerity, shall have all their past sins forgiven
Celebrating Eid al-Fitr
• Eid al-Fitr is a time to celebrate the end of the Ramadan
• Eid is celebrated with much enthusiasm and Muslims can be seen adorned in beautiful new clothes, visiting the mosques to attend Eid prayers
• Greetings of "Eid-Mubarak" or "a blessed Eid" are exchanged. The celebration continues for three days
Wishing you Ramadan Mubarak
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Manners Please
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Posted:Jun 11, 2015 1:14 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2015 12:28 am
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Short of giving a podium lecture on the non-existence of manners in general in the world today, it would seem that having the privilege of an online anonymity immediately is a ticket to brutish uncouth behavior from both sexes.
The bigger irony of this is that the perpetrators themselves get all their bits in a knot if someone was to happily dish a serving of the same to them.
Hypocrisy at its best.
Having multiple profiles pretending to be something you're not is easily suss-able by anyone with 2 peas for a brain.
But these rude obnoxious multi-personalities will have such delightful conversations with "me-myself-I and the fictional village" and the moment this little farce is commented upon will immediately "collectively" launch into an all out war, tirade of the worst possible display of human interaction.
Other times they spend all their energy taunting and alluding that others are fictional 2D handles whilst they are living in this oh so amazing high profile life - and THAT is why they are like residents here - you never at any hour of the day see them away - coz their oh so hectic lives just simply allow them to be assholes 24x7x365 online.
GAWD! I just have to find my bucket and retch breakfast out - such indigestion and heartburn. 
These are the times I wander off into IM or just log out because I like to have a strong grasp on reality.
When the delusional start acting up and its a time for tranquilizers to be used excessively then it is time for the sane to step out, light a ciggie, play a round of something violent and relax!
** meditation music in the background **
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Watching Tumbleweed Roll By
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Posted:May 23, 2015 1:33 am
Last Updated:Jan 9, 2019 9:06 am
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Yes I know I am in the sandpit ... but in my part of the world tumbleweed isn't common. Sandstorms are !
So what am I talking about then.
There are days when you enter one of the existing Regional Flash Chats and you see people come in people leave.
I saw this happen which led to the eventual slow death of the room where people come and go because there is no one talking. The handles are either lurking or too much about cool cliques that anyone else is automatically excluded.
The genesis of the slow death of any chat is when members seem to lose their sense of reality.
Given that some actually interact with members offline as well given location the general number come in just to unwind - have some conversation, meet some like minded and then take it from there - whatever "there" and "taking it" means to each person.
You will often encounter in such rooms these types
1. The Copy Paster Who Cannot Spell and is on drugs or something
This person will type 1 stupid badly spelt all insulting line or if they are creative they have a repertoire of maybe 3-4 sentences ... all being racist, sexist and some form of phobia rolled into one.
Their form of communication is to annoy the fuck out of everyone else in the room. Thus hoping to get some form of equally stupid response. Seasoned members in the room have long iggi-ed this sad pathetic excuse but the newer ones get pulled into this sick individuals few seconds of infamy.
2. Everybody is a Slut/Dumb Fuck but me
Now this kind finds a problem with everyone and when I say everyone I mean EVERYONE. Too fat too thin too white too brown too smart too dumb ... you get what I mean.
They are the Chats resident NEGATIVITY AURA. You can be nice to them but they will only spit more bile and try to bring you down. Like a wank off they get their high when everyone hates on them - it fuels them even further ... this must be some form of masochism.
3. Room Divas Every Guy is Mine
Aaaaaa we have all met these in the chat room. They feed off attention. The moment they feel their attention bank is low from ALL the men in the room they start either being snotty with all the other females or miraculously have a new drama in their lives which will inadvertently draw back any male attention that was being lost ... maybe someone more interesting was captivating in the room.
4. Room Alpha Male Every Girl is Mine
Just role reversal of the above. But instead of dramas they try to prove how much more manly and desirable they are while pulling the other chaps down a peg or two by highlighting some obscure forgotten misadventure or urban legend.
5. You can ONLY talk to me but I can talk to anyone
You make this "friend" you inbox, you IM, you might even give them email addresses or use other social messenger apps and take them from Black Flirting to real world.
Now this kind is possessive. Apparently becoming their friend means you cease to have social interaction with anyone else. You must contact them ONLY.
If you are seen interacting with others in rooms you become the slut, if you talk to people they dislike but you get on fine with - you're a player playing with their emotions. If you see them having a ball being 1-4 in the chatrooms its ok - they have the privilege you don't.
There are so many more I really cannot begin to list all of them.
This sense of reality skewed worries me sometimes. I mean given am not out here finding my weekend shag partner. But I have had many interesting conversations interrupted by one of the above types.
People need to understand online isn't REAL LIFE!
It's a place anyone can be anyone they want to be - some of them like me are well just ourselves. But a large number are living off their fantasies. Some clearly the pictures and descriptions do not match the person they are ....
Take a REALITY CHECK. This is the internet.
And while we are warning about safe ... think about how unsafe our own interactions online can be.
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Watchers
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Posted:May 20, 2015 1:28 am
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2015 9:16 am
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Now I'd only thought you had people you might call watchers if they were well associated to an activity like Bird Watching.
However, it was amusing that I have 2 Watchers of my blog - no clue what they've tuned in to watch per se but am thinking perhaps they find my sporadic musings entertaining.
In thinking about it ... there's some amount of "bird watching" that goes on here ... either erect or flaccid birds  or well endowed birds ...
I suppose its all in the perspective of things 
So to my 2 anonymous Watchers sending you love and sunshine (way too much of it anyways I don't mind sharing) from the sandpit ..
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Sapiosexual
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Posted:May 13, 2015 11:54 pm
Last Updated:Aug 15, 2015 6:30 am
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One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.
"I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with.
I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual."
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I absolutely love the new definitions of the varying sexuality levels.
It finally really allows all of us "oddballs" who have had to face years of "frigid" "aloof" "weirdo" etc etc etc ... and some other unmentionables find peace with ourselves.
I loved learning that instead of asexual, I am really a demisexual ... it takes a lot more than talking dirty and waving penis to get me mildly interested.
Sapiosexual - aaaa YES!
Intelligence is a big turn on.
Having a brain and not using it AT ALL is so unattractive.
And I note whilst I am quite clear that I don't shag every Tom Dick or Harry, quite a few of you chaps and ladies too find me attractive because you are attracted to the wit and the smarts I am giving out.
Isn't this a crazy world .... on a sex site talking astrophysics  and getting turned on.
Am demi-sapiosexual and proud!
Have a good one y'all - whatever gets you off ...
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Identifying my Sexuality
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Posted:Mar 15, 2015 10:07 pm
Last Updated:May 13, 2015 11:57 pm
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The easiest classification of me is hetero - as I have never been in a lesbian encounter.
However I have over the course of time wondered, thought even occasionally fantasized about it. Have I actually executed such an encounter NO!
Then someone decided that I was a closet Bisexual - hmmmmmm why? Just becoz.
I am a divorced single mom raising 2 daughters in a foreign place - am away from my country and struggling. Having been separated nearly 10years and finally divorced officially close to 5yrs - largely I have chosen to
1. remain unattached
2. celibate for most part
Now the single - works for people looking for NSAs and ONSs and whatever other kind of swinger lifestyle is out there. For many married men this seems to be their homing single - let's get laid and have fun ... afterall having been married you MUST need your frequent dose of sex.
The problem here is my answer is actually No ... my celibacy works fine for me. If there is any unbearable desires then
1. take cold shower
2. DIY more satisfying, less messy and not guilt!
So whenever someone called me a frigid bitch, I'd say no I am asexual - but the reality is I am not asexual in its true form. However I can survive and my record is 7yrs no actual intercourse and I didn't feel like I was missing anything from my life.
Recently I in my endless quest for information I found this definition and BANG!
Spot on it felt I was reading myself ...
So finally ... I can proudly say I am a Demisexual.
Defined by the Urban dictionary - and I plagarised this so that I didn't have to retype everything :
Demisexuals are characterized by a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with a specific person or persons. The level of connection it takes for sexual desire to form is dependent on how close the relationship is rather than initial attraction. It is an orientation that is not chosen.
Demisexuality does not refer to the active restraint or repression of sexual desires or actions.
Demi- is a prefix meaning half. This is used to mean halfway between sexual and asexual. The term originated in the asexual community, specifically within the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN).
Sexual partner:
Hey, I think you are sexy. *aroused*
Demisexual partner:
I'd have to reach a higher level of emotional intimacy before I could feel the same way. =\
Sexual partner:
Oh, I see. Well, we can do something enjoyable together. =/
Demisexual partner:
=D We can bake a cake for now!
Sexual partner:
Sure! That's always fun, although we seem to be doing that a lot. =D
Demisexual partner:
*squeee! bonding time!*
Sooooooooooooooooooo if I tell you I don't sleep around - it's 100% true.
To do that I need to connect with you at some level ... otherwise let's just bake a cake
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What's to Blog
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Posted:Feb 28, 2015 6:29 am
Last Updated:May 13, 2015 11:56 pm
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When I am considered an oddball here
I ain't looking
I don't flash boobs or any other parts
I don't post videos of me getting laid
Instead I log on read the mails, chat in the UK room and basically be myself without touching on anything sexual.
Don't ask me why I am here
It's a freedom of choice
I can be anywhere
And this is just one of my social stops
I lead a very sane life here and everywhere else I am found on social media.
Doesn't pose a problem for you does it?
Why should it
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